Quality not quantity. And, yes, what you gain in one aspect you lose often in another.
I now seem to be the expert in what to do when everything goes shit shaped. I must admit I'm maybe not totally dedicated to putting myself out for those who dropped me like a hot scone when I was in big trouble. Yes, I'll help, but not with great enthusiasm. It is interesting to see the approaches people take when they suddenly want something from you. Apparently I'm too independent to need help and it's remarkable how off putting any display of resilience can be for some folk. "I just didn't think I could help". Hmm, maybe not, but we'll never know now, will we?