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- Most nurses are wonderful but I was rather short with the one who asked a list of slightly odd questions (because she didn't have time to read the notes in front of her) ending with "Do you have any anxiety?" To which my reply was "You mean over and above having breast cancer, losing a breast, having chemo, losing my hair, peripheral neuropathy and now a heart problem?". Wouldn't have minded as much if she hadn't been perfectly aware of the cancer and why I was waiting to see a specialist! Following the tick a box list I assume.
- “Oh you’re so brave aren’t you margie” definately felt like slapping that one lol. Xx
- My favorite was while i was in hospital after lumpectomy surgery, a lady i go to uni with messaged me to tell me how pissed off she was that she couldn't work on the essay we had due because she had a paper cut on her thumb and couldn't write. When I didn't respond to this she messaged me again asking if i was giving her my resting bitch face look. Hahaha at least she relised how ridiculous her message was.
- I'm still bald and have been mistaken for a buddhist nun, a circus performer and a radical lesbian - depends what I'm wearing.
I've had many catastophe's where well meaning friends say the wrong thing.
Everyone says how well I look and inside I die a little death everytime I hear those words.
Lots of people feel uncomfortable with cancer and will just blurt out anything, like my panelbeater the other day.
Trying to express his sorrow at my situation, he started on about how dreadful it must be for young girls to lose such an important part of their sexual identity. I tried my best to distract him from the topic but didn't feel at all affronted by his ramblings - he meant well.
The worst thing I ever heard from someone was when I had a newborn baby in the NICU at Royal North Shore Hospital in Sydney. "At least you've got 2 healthy children to go home to"! - Oh dear, I think we are all in the same boat. Another one of my favourites I always get is ....."but you look so well"
I've always felt if you have nothing positive to say, say nothing. Oh and..... when being as hairless as a lab rat, wearing a headscarf the best was.............Gee the scarves suit you.....probably cause you had short hair anyway you don't miss your hair ..........wtf!!!!! Oh and one more.....the grizzly expression when anyone spotted my radiation burn...(I was burnt way up to under my chin almost so concealment was difficult), got lots of tips for sunburn creams and slip slop slap routines, I know how I would like to slap, but working with public you learn to just smile, walk away, then go out the back and SCREAM! lol - I just love when the nurse in theatre says to you "Hi, how are you today ?" Well, "fucking great" I feel like answering as they are about to chop my boob off - but no, I said ""well, I am here - what do you think ? .....!".
- Lol, some of the shit people say. I had a neighbor say to me when i was just diagnosed ( it could've spread all through you lovey). This was before i had any scans to see if it had or hadn't.
I also went to pick something up on Gumtree and when the guy opened the door the first thing he said was "what happened to your hair". Lol i said chemo happened. Really sometimes i LMFAO at the stupidity of some people.
