Is that right? Did you really say that?

Hate the comments stating that you're all better now because your treatments are finished; that you're looking so well; aren't you glad it's all over with; why would you worry about it coming back if the scans showed no evidence spread? Also hate that we're not supposed to dislike our new, fat, deformed, painful, forever changed bodies, as we should just be grateful to be alive. My absolute fave STAY POSITIVE... Yep, that'll do the trick!

@LucyE
she is trying her best there have been days were she went into the supervisors office closed the door and burst into tears because for her, it brings it all up again my diagnosis, but she is training to be a psychologist and said to me I need to learn to handle these things effectively mum.. if it has been a day with multiple calls like that she often comes home makes me a cuppa takes my 2 phones (work/personal) and puts them on silent I know she needs to debrief without telling me peoples names, etc. ..... Some of her friends who work in the centre with her at 19/20 and never experienced any life threatening incidents in their home life so are really drowning at times. I hope that my diagnosis has actually prepared her more for what she does now and in the future. 

So heartening to read that other people also get such ridiculous things said to them too

'Whats your prognosis?'

What? Are you in the habit of asking people when they are likely to die?

'Better than yours if you don't learn some bloody manners.' Cue pirate smile.

@SoldierCrab you are right, she did sound very young and probably wasn’t used to that response. It sounds like your daughter is doing a wonderful job! 

Oh I've heard some real doozies, but as with so many things and situations in my life, all 59 years of it, I resort to humour, often very black. I've had a few people squirm a tad, when I turn it on myself, such as saying things like, "Oooh I'd give my left tit for..." whatever it is being discussed. Followed up with, "Of course, if I still had one, or even a right one, come to that"... That sort of self deprecating humour has always been part of my personality, and I don't intend to change. It has gotten me through many tough situations in the past, and I reckon I'll still be the  same until they nail my box shut one day.

@LucyE oh dear she was just following her script, I know my Daughter does that type of work at Uni whilst also being a Uni student.... but due to my BC diagnosis she has found it  helpful to go off script when she gets a reply like yours and ask if there is anything that the Uni can do in regards to supports and extensions of times etc or leave of absence etc. 
When I realised that is it often 19/20yr old Uni students who do those paid jobs at uni it made sense about how  they follow script and answer.  They have no understanding and in general we just dont want them to have need to understand it because that would mean they had BC ... 

When I had to withdraw from my subject at uni I got a call from a woman from the uni who asked me why I had dropped out. I told her that I had breast cancer. Without missing a beat, she asked me “Any other reason?, are you happy with the lecturers? . . Then she went on to ask a list of about 10 other questions in a very upbeat tone. I thought if only you knew! 

I get the “you’re an inspiration” all the time. Like, what else am I supposed to do. I’m just getting shit done.

I’m also getting sick of the “my situation could always be worse” followed by staring at me. Yeah, and my situation could also be a lot worse so you know, shush. And my situation doesn’t cancel out your shitty situation either.

My favourite reaction was telling my older brother that I had BC. He immediately responded with “but you hardly go out in the sun”. Oh you’re so cute! He still doesn’t know a lot about cancer, and I’m glad he can be that innocent for a while longer.

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