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smokie08
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8 years ago

Having a bit of a wobble!!!!!

Hi All

I am having a bit of a wobble!! I know it sound silly but i feel guilty about the last few days.  I have relatives over from the UK and we had a few days away in the Clare Valley which was brilliant.  But i feel so guilty about drinking so much wine and cider!! I have cut down my alcohol consumption a lot since diagnosis ( still have a few at weekends) but last week every day had a drink or 3.  My wonderful husband says not to worry as i really enjoyed myself but i can't help thinking that alcohol may have caused this in the first place.  My husband is my rock and i think he is right but feel so guilty.  Then made the mistake of looking at a link i found on here about triple neg and chemo and scared my self! I know i am through all that part but now feel scared of a recurrence. 

Sorry to bore you all but needed to get it off my chest (no pun intended!!!) 

Thanks for listening
Julia <3 <3 :)  
coping

10 Replies

  • Mollygirl's avatar
    Mollygirl
    Member
    8 years ago
    @smokie08, maybe the relaxation and feel good you got going from the wine has done you more good than the damage you think may or may not have !  So there you go - it's balanced out!  Neutralised!! 
    I was a HUGE lover of wine... Then two half years ago after my melanoma diagnosis I cut right down - Id go months without then occasional glass or two. Then I get breast cancer.... Go figure!!!!
    so did my previous consumption cause it ?  Don't know. Did my phone in my bra when I used to run years ago cause it.  Don't know. Was it my diet. Don't know. 
    Bad luck I think. Don't beat yourself up Honey - you deserve to cut yourself some slack. Massive hugs. Xxxxx
  • primek's avatar
    primek
    Member
    8 years ago
    The occasional indulgences are not the cause of cancer. Relax. Glad it was great.


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    8 years ago
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  • Romla's avatar
    Romla
    Member
    8 years ago
    I reckon @afraserput up a pretty appropriate quote today that might help put things in context.

    Excess on occasion is exhilarating. It prevents moderation from acquiring the deadening effect of a habit.

    Somerset Maughan


  • lrb_03's avatar
    lrb_03
    Member
    8 years ago
    Nah, they'll find something in those that causes cancer, too, lol  :D :D
  • smokie08's avatar
    smokie08
    Member
    8 years ago
    Thanks ladies  i read the article about asparagus as well  God soon all i will be able to eat n drink  is lettuce  n water   i think  I  will  stick to my usual diet  for now and take my chances   ;)
  • wendy_h67's avatar
    wendy_h67
    Member
    8 years ago
    Good on you Marg . I cant wait to take off on a weeks holiday in 
    Tassie from Sunday and will probably check out the winerys . Haven't had a glass of wine since Christmas and that was ages ago. My moto is enjoy life while you can. 
  • Zoffiel's avatar
    Zoffiel
    Member
    8 years ago

    If it caused it, it caused it but who knows for sure?

    I've just read that asparagus has properties that are not helpful when trying to stop the spread of cancer. Really? They may have taken my tits, but they are not taking my asparagus!

    Bear in mind that the majority of cancers are not --or so the current theory goes--caused by either lifestyle or genetics. It's pure, shitty luck.

    Yes, of course, we know that some things are carcinogens, but even that can be confusing as not everyone who is exposed gets sick.

    My philosophy is that if your cancer comes back after a couple of drinks a day over a week or so, you were doomed anyway. If you enjoy it you are probably doing yourself more good than a few too many units of alcohol will do you harm.

    There, I've just justified sitting in my wading pool this afternoon with a big glass of bubbly. Marg xxx

  • SoldierCrab's avatar
    SoldierCrab
    Member
    8 years ago
    @smokie08
    we all wonder what if ..... for me it was my mobile phone in my bra right where my lumps where.... No doctor will say yes it was my phone but I will always wonder... 

    I think you need to think of this ...... You relaxed and had some fun that means your body heals and releases the good things in our bodies.... 

    maybe a raging alcoholic might be a different matter but having a few drinks with friends/family and relaxing is not going to spiral you into recurrence.... 
    Everything in moderation.... 

    Please breathe and realise we are human and having a few drinks is natural. 

    Hugs 
    Soldiercrab