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Family Drama
I just want to say I have had an absolutely shit day because of my family. Not the one I live with, but the one I was born into. I won't bore you with the details, but I've been incredibly upset, and my stress levels, already high, are now through the roof.
What do other people do when they have family dramas mid-treatment?
I know that it is hard to get out of your own head when you are dealing with BC. Since I had the call back letter from BreastScreen it has been virtually impossible for me to think of anything else. But I have tried, especially with my family. I have plastered smiles on my face, I have tried not to worry them. I'm trying so hard to keep everything going. We are told to de-stress our lives to protect and improve our health. But what if the stress is from the people who supposedly love you, but who choose to either obstruct you, deliberately refuse to help, or actively attack you (for petty reasons while they are on holiday on the other side of the world I might add) while you are recovering from chemotherapy and preparing to lose your breasts?? I don't know how to untangle this knot.
I don't think I've put this very well, but I hope you get my conundrum. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me? How do I cope with family drama while having treatment for breast cancer?
What do other people do when they have family dramas mid-treatment?
I know that it is hard to get out of your own head when you are dealing with BC. Since I had the call back letter from BreastScreen it has been virtually impossible for me to think of anything else. But I have tried, especially with my family. I have plastered smiles on my face, I have tried not to worry them. I'm trying so hard to keep everything going. We are told to de-stress our lives to protect and improve our health. But what if the stress is from the people who supposedly love you, but who choose to either obstruct you, deliberately refuse to help, or actively attack you (for petty reasons while they are on holiday on the other side of the world I might add) while you are recovering from chemotherapy and preparing to lose your breasts?? I don't know how to untangle this knot.
I don't think I've put this very well, but I hope you get my conundrum. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me? How do I cope with family drama while having treatment for breast cancer?
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- I'm not at all sure where my message has gone , really strange sometimes how this happens on here .
I had a super afternoon, I've made a lovely new friend , It was the best medicine. - Look in your drafts @Finch
- My whole message has disappeared ?????
- We did not stop talking once did we @kmakm
- here is the second part of it ... https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/depression-management-techniques/201412/not-my-circus-not-my-monkeys-0
- Kmakm I hope you read this as a positive as I am definitely not suggesting otherwise but A friend taught me about it not being my circus.... while I was going through chemo.... I now just let those not in my circle go and let them be their own masters and not stress over their reactions or non reactions to things .... it has helped me to let it go and allowed me to enjoy my space with my inner circle (ie) my kids and my close friends.
- Sometimes you just need to weed the garden regardless of that weed having a pretty flower or not.
- Kmakm http://articles.latimes.com/2013/apr/07/opinion/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407 this is a great piece of advice....
DO you know the illustration about the circle in the square ?
YOU are in the circle everyone else is either in the square but outside your circle or outside the square....
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/depression-management-techniques/201412/not-my-circus-not-my-monkeys - @kmakm Glad you had a lovely day , would've called you but I was at work !!
You certainly don't need anymore drama n your life, so glad your husband has got your back !
love & hugs to you - @kmakm - that’s fabulous. It was perfect timing for u guys to meet with everything that is going on for u both. I hope @Finch was rocking a fabulous new scarf. This is a horrible experience but to me such fabulous people is a blessing!!
