Family Drama
I just want to say I have had an absolutely shit day because of my family. Not the one I live with, but the one I was born into. I won't bore you with the details, but I've been incredibly upset, and ...
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Hi @kmakm .... after so much excellent advice in the preceding pages ..... what can I say - other than .... been there, done that!
The facts are - You can't choose family! :( It is THEIR problem, not yours, so I hope you can distance yourself from it & try & not let it affect you & the continuing surgery/treatment that you are having.
I deliberately haven't told a section of my 'closest family' (step sister & step brother's family - we have 55+ years of 'family' history) as I really don't need them in my fight for numerous reasons ..... but then, even my blood sister can be a real pain in the arse too!! For some reason, whenever we get together - she turns vicious within 2 days .... She visited us over Easter & sure enough, the barbs came out within a matter of days! I couldn't believe it! Then, when talking to our brother - she says that I am 'fine - nothing wrong'! WTF does SHE KNOW??
You don't HAVE to tolerate dickheads/extra baggage - it is not in your best interests - so ... stuff 'em. Put all your energies into looking after YOU .... your hubby sounds like a great 'guard dog' ..... that is just wonderful that he is looking after you!
Sadly - mine has early dementia and he still doesn't really understand what has happened to me over the last 4 months, so isn't any help at all! Matter of fact, I was forced into looking after HIM for the whole 4 weeks of my rads (as well as the last 2 weeks since I've finished), as he injured his ribs in a bike fall - and is only now, ''coming good''! :(
Stay Strong - do what you have to do to get the negatives out of your life. You don't need them! Take care & some BIG HUGS coming your way! xx
The facts are - You can't choose family! :( It is THEIR problem, not yours, so I hope you can distance yourself from it & try & not let it affect you & the continuing surgery/treatment that you are having.
I deliberately haven't told a section of my 'closest family' (step sister & step brother's family - we have 55+ years of 'family' history) as I really don't need them in my fight for numerous reasons ..... but then, even my blood sister can be a real pain in the arse too!! For some reason, whenever we get together - she turns vicious within 2 days .... She visited us over Easter & sure enough, the barbs came out within a matter of days! I couldn't believe it! Then, when talking to our brother - she says that I am 'fine - nothing wrong'! WTF does SHE KNOW??
You don't HAVE to tolerate dickheads/extra baggage - it is not in your best interests - so ... stuff 'em. Put all your energies into looking after YOU .... your hubby sounds like a great 'guard dog' ..... that is just wonderful that he is looking after you!
Sadly - mine has early dementia and he still doesn't really understand what has happened to me over the last 4 months, so isn't any help at all! Matter of fact, I was forced into looking after HIM for the whole 4 weeks of my rads (as well as the last 2 weeks since I've finished), as he injured his ribs in a bike fall - and is only now, ''coming good''! :(
Stay Strong - do what you have to do to get the negatives out of your life. You don't need them! Take care & some BIG HUGS coming your way! xx