Family Drama
I just want to say I have had an absolutely shit day because of my family. Not the one I live with, but the one I was born into. I won't bore you with the details, but I've been incredibly upset, and ...
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Hi @SoldierCrab. Those articles are very interesting. I am going to take some time in the next few days to think about, absorb and maybe apply them.
Over the last few years, as the disasters have rolled through our family, I've worked to let go of the things I can't control. It's a work in progress. I'm a fan of the AA serenity prayer.
My clumsy expression of being all in my head was me trying to talk about the not my circus, not my monkeys metaphor. I know, despite what's happening to me, that life can't be all about me. However, according to the other article, about how to not say the wrong thing, I am the one in the centre of the circle at the moment!
My family situation is terribly complicated. You can probably surmise from my story that the bulk of the burden of care falls on my shoulders, and no one else's. If I fall over, the whole thing collapses. So then I go and get cancer, and my remaining sibling chooses to attack me at an incredibly vulnerable moment. I am genuinely shocked and deeply hurt. I don't know what to do with this pain, on top of all the others.
My reaction to this, and my breast cancer, is of course not just based on those instances alone, but on the sum of my life experiences. I believe this to be true for everyone, plus a fair bit of nature as well. I know I'm not alone in these struggles, or in having a 'poor me' moment. But I remain flabbergasted.
Going away with the husband and three youngest tomorrow. Hopefully the change of scene will be restorative. Thank you for your wisdom.
Over the last few years, as the disasters have rolled through our family, I've worked to let go of the things I can't control. It's a work in progress. I'm a fan of the AA serenity prayer.
My clumsy expression of being all in my head was me trying to talk about the not my circus, not my monkeys metaphor. I know, despite what's happening to me, that life can't be all about me. However, according to the other article, about how to not say the wrong thing, I am the one in the centre of the circle at the moment!
My family situation is terribly complicated. You can probably surmise from my story that the bulk of the burden of care falls on my shoulders, and no one else's. If I fall over, the whole thing collapses. So then I go and get cancer, and my remaining sibling chooses to attack me at an incredibly vulnerable moment. I am genuinely shocked and deeply hurt. I don't know what to do with this pain, on top of all the others.
My reaction to this, and my breast cancer, is of course not just based on those instances alone, but on the sum of my life experiences. I believe this to be true for everyone, plus a fair bit of nature as well. I know I'm not alone in these struggles, or in having a 'poor me' moment. But I remain flabbergasted.
Going away with the husband and three youngest tomorrow. Hopefully the change of scene will be restorative. Thank you for your wisdom.