Kmakm,
I just realised I could share something with you 2 very toxic people in my life kept over stepping boundaries..... when I had my bilateral mastectomy I asked the surgeon and he named each breast ... X & Y (wont share their names here) and I told him I was evicting them from my life when he removed my breasts ..... Since then neither X nor Y have encroached into my personal space ..... I had taken back my control of how they were overstepping my boundaries ..... it really helped me to do that.