@kmakm The reason I put in about "to the extent that you are able" is because you need to be aware that any reaction from you is going to inflame things in the short-term and you are probably not in a place to deal with that at the moment. Excellent advice for your husband to be a gatekeeper but only if he and you are up for it. Avoidance for the time being, until you are mentally and emotionally stronger, could be the best thing. Only you know what you are prepared to do. I spent many years, on and off, putting emotional distance between my sister and me and trying to protect my Mum from manipulation so I know it's not easy.