I just want to say I have had an absolutely shit day because of my family. Not the one I live with, but the one I was born into. I won't bore you with the details, but I've been incredibly upset, and ...
I haven't got an easy answer for you @kmakm but @zoffiel is right - to the extent that you are able. It's hard for me to say because I no longer have any family but if they're bringing you down that badly you have a right to say it and leave, hangup, whatever. Of course, you can only do that knowing that there is a possibility that the relationships may break down irretrievably as a consequence. Not a great choice, I know. Hugs to you.