Family are not being respectful of my wishes
Dear all, I have invasive BC. I had surgery in May and I am currently having chemo. When I was diagnosed after much thought I decided to only tell my immediate family and a few very close friends. ...
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Sadly, you can't choose your family @Cath62 . Some are just incredibly selfish - it has to be about 'them' - THEY want the sympathy - how dare YOU get any! But breaking/passing on someone's confidential information is right up there as unforgivable. Even if you ARE able to forgive - you'll never forget & highly unlikely to disclose any other confidences again! :(
I deliberately didn't tell my step sibling about my BC for 12 months. She emailed me back with commiserations & then we chatted on the phone ..... then 12 months later, she claimed I'd never told her! Weird - I have a copy of the email - both of them! There isn't a lot of love lost between us for all sorts of reasons! Trust, being one of them.
I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister Cath - how incredibly sad that you were unable to mention her in a family setting ever again. :( Counselling would have helped, I think. I am so glad that your husband is such a tower of strength and is riding shotgun for you - and good that he is pointing their lies out to them!! xx
@AllyJay - How sad that your brother died so young too :( Your description of your travel advice to your mother had me laugh out loud! My favourite 2 words, too! :) My own mother buggered off when I was 2 & my stepmother basically kicked me out of home the year after I finished school. My father had died 5 years after they married (I was 8 when they married.) My siblings & I were at boarding school our whole life, so we had never really 'lived' with her other than holidays. Within a year of leaving school, my brothers had left home and then my sister & I were literally kicked out a year apart - so there were serious trust issues from the start - which continues to this day with the step sibling. I am so glad that your husband and children/grand children and fur babies are such a wonderful support. Unconditional love! WONDERFUL
This bus we are on is a crazy enough journey as it is, without loopies jumping on as well!!
Take care, stay well xx
I deliberately didn't tell my step sibling about my BC for 12 months. She emailed me back with commiserations & then we chatted on the phone ..... then 12 months later, she claimed I'd never told her! Weird - I have a copy of the email - both of them! There isn't a lot of love lost between us for all sorts of reasons! Trust, being one of them.
I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister Cath - how incredibly sad that you were unable to mention her in a family setting ever again. :( Counselling would have helped, I think. I am so glad that your husband is such a tower of strength and is riding shotgun for you - and good that he is pointing their lies out to them!! xx
@AllyJay - How sad that your brother died so young too :( Your description of your travel advice to your mother had me laugh out loud! My favourite 2 words, too! :) My own mother buggered off when I was 2 & my stepmother basically kicked me out of home the year after I finished school. My father had died 5 years after they married (I was 8 when they married.) My siblings & I were at boarding school our whole life, so we had never really 'lived' with her other than holidays. Within a year of leaving school, my brothers had left home and then my sister & I were literally kicked out a year apart - so there were serious trust issues from the start - which continues to this day with the step sibling. I am so glad that your husband and children/grand children and fur babies are such a wonderful support. Unconditional love! WONDERFUL
This bus we are on is a crazy enough journey as it is, without loopies jumping on as well!!
Take care, stay well xx