Family are not being respectful of my wishes

@AllyJay sorry I took so long to respond. I have been away for a couple of days. How lovely you have a family of your own and one you can enjoy special times with.  I lost a sister nearly 30 yrs ago. I helped my family and sat with my mother daily for 3 months after that. They have never got over it. I can't imagine what it would be like to loose a child. My sister was 28. My family never collectively discussed her death and it was never acknowledged that I lost my sister. I had to notify everyone about het death and my mother told me I couldn't reveal what she died from. I was 30 yrs old at the time and my son was 3.  I respected her wishes but it was difficult. We should have talked about it, had counselling or something. We seem to have a couple things in common. 

For now I lay low  limit communication and just focus on my healing.