OMG, I can't believe what your partner said, but then again I can, because I have the same thing said to me by my partner. I hear where you are coming from, I am in the same place at the moment, Hating myself, hating what my life has become, hating how I am handling this. I basically feel like having breast cancer has ruined me.
These feelings are all normal I have been told. And don't let anyone tell you what you should be thinking and feeling. I am also having a hard time dealing with everyone telling me how strong I am and that I must remain strong if I am to get through this. But how can one remain strong when the joint pain and muscle pain is so bad. I,m having the hot flushes and the pain all over and haven't even started on the Tamoxifen. I am flatly refusing to take it because of the symptoms I am having since being pushed through menopause thanks to Chemo. I too am crying most days since the joint and muscle pain decided to take over my body about a month ago. It makes me agitated, angry, frustrated and irritable, man I don't even want to be around me.
I am praying this will all be over soon and my life will be back to normal somehow. I pray the same for you and every other woman that is feeling this way.
All I can say is hang in there, even though I know it is so trying some days. I feel like just giving up but I think of my kids and my pets, they need me.
I wish there was some way some of us on this site could me up and just talk. I feel so alone sometimes and don't want to burden my husband and friends with my problems. Not sure if you feel the same way.