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Accepting your New Self
I could have put this discussion in the breast reconstruction group but thought it was better in general discussion. I'm struggling at the monent. Yes My cancer was found at stage 1 and I had no...
@primek I saw your post today and then found below what I wrote and must've put into drafts back in May, sorry I didn't respond at the time when you were hurting so much!
your reflection is only a fraction of who you are! You are still you! Grieving comes in all forms and there is no rule book on how to handle it! Acceptance helps with grief but it doesn't resolve it. I gather from your post you have accepted but every now and then that reflection in the mirror says, hey that's not how they used to look, what happened!
Your comment "...that this is it. I don't have breasts. I have memorials built as breasts..." Oh I can relate to that one! They are more about making me look normal when I am dressed without the deep connection that I had with them before the amputation.
Take care and reflect xx
your reflection is only a fraction of who you are! You are still you! Grieving comes in all forms and there is no rule book on how to handle it! Acceptance helps with grief but it doesn't resolve it. I gather from your post you have accepted but every now and then that reflection in the mirror says, hey that's not how they used to look, what happened!
Your comment "...that this is it. I don't have breasts. I have memorials built as breasts..." Oh I can relate to that one! They are more about making me look normal when I am dressed without the deep connection that I had with them before the amputation.
Take care and reflect xx