Secondaries

Hi Belinda I am a fellow ABCer and also have young children. I understand where you are coming from. Enjoy your family and (where possible) cut out those who stress you out. Be kind to yourself. Amy x

Hi I saw a report on this drug the other day on a show cant remember which one, It may not be available here or even be an option for you and I hope the link will work, the story showed  women who had done the trial with no chemo side effects at all, and their comments where that they didnt have that raw on the inside, being poisoned feeling, is only for HER positive I believe but worth a look at least, dont want to get your hopes up on anything, but who knows there may be a trial here in Oz

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/06/120604094115.htm

All the best for some happy times soon

Cheers Narelle xox

 

What on earth is going on in this world where someone as young and beautiful as you has bc  secondaries.I don't know how the bc fundraising  money is dispersed for which research but it should be targeted to young women like yourself. I can't begin to imagine facing secondaries when my girls were so young.It's just bloody wrong,wrong,wrong.Yes you have to be realistic but keep hope alive.Celeste has wise words in that the right chemo combo maybe just around the corner for you.Love and hugs to you.

                                           Tonya xx

Oh Belinda

You have so much strength and courage to do what you have done so far. I honestly would have crumpled at the thought of organising my own funeral.

You have made me cry, not just for you, but for your lovely husband and your gorgeous and adorable girls.

I wouldn't be saying the crap word, but like the others shouting from the rooftop, why me!!! with lots of swear words.

Make the most of each day with your lovely family. Cherish every moment of every day and spoil yourself. Write letters to your girls when they have birthdays, engagements and weddings. So they will always know that you are there shining from above.

I can't walk in your footsteps, and know how you really feel. But,  if we all had that magic potion, we would, with no hesitation give it to you.... and make it all better. I wish they had a cure for this F****** horrible thing.

Oh my lovely..... just make sure they try every avenue here or overseas.

My thoughts are with you my sweet. Love as always Julie XX

THANK YOU ALL for your amazing support! We have a new hurdle to deal with now as My Husband is about to be laid off in a few weeks! (he's been working at his job for 12 years)  

I am trying to see this as a positive in this as we would be able to manage on Centerlink for a while and he will be at home for a bit (not too long! hopefully) to spend some time with myself and the children! :O) 

Anyone know of any Awesome paying full time jobs coming up? :O)

xox Belinda xox

dear Belinda,

Last year I lost a girlfriend to an aggressive brain cancer - she was given a best case of 6 months (she actually made it to 3 and a half). Like you, she wanted people to accept that she was going to die, and to be ready for it. I asked her how she was dealing with each day and she told me she was just working through her own bucket list - a son's birthday, riding on  a motorbike, going to her daughter's next concert, her granddaughter's first birthday - just ticking off each one as it came and hoping to get to the next one. Living every moment.

You scream and rant whenever you need to, make your plans and try to help your family see how important it is to YOU that they acknowledge what's happening. If it happens later rather than sooner, that'll be a bonus !! But let them know that if they really want to do anything for you, THIS is what they can do.

Take special care of yourself my dear. Spoil yourself as often as you can. And spoil your precious girls too with a lifetime of memories.

lots of love

Keitha

dear Belinda,

Last year I lost a girlfriend to an aggressive brain cancer - she was given a best case of 6 months (she actually made it to 3 and a half). Like you, she wanted people to accept that she was going to die, and to be ready for it. I asked her how she was dealing with each day and she told me she was just working through her own bucket list - a son's birthday, riding on  a motorbike, going to her daughter's next concert, her granddaughter's first birthday - just ticking off each one as it came and hoping to get to the next one. Living every moment.

You scream and rant whenever you need to, make your plans and try to help your family see how important it is to YOU that they acknowledge what's happening. If it happens later rather than sooner, that'll be a bonus !! But let them know that if they really want to do anything for you, THIS is what they can do.

Take special care of yourself my dear. Spoil yourself as often as you can. And spoil your precious girls too with a lifetime of memories.

lots of love

Keitha

I am heart broken Belinda, it is beyond me how you manage to carry on. I will pray night and day that your Oncologist finds the drug required so you get another Christmas and even better more birthdays. Just know whatever happens you will continue to shine through your babies and I am sure they will be forever proud of their very special mum.

I hope your pain is kept to a minimum and your beautiful family finds the strength required to listen and deal with this incredibly unfair crappity crap situation you are all forced with. So freakin unfair!!!

Lara xx

WOW! Thanks Ladies, I actually didn't realise other people could read that!!! LOL Just a random vent LOL :O)

I am usually really positive and smile through it all...but sometimes it just gets me down! Especially as my Oncologist told me that if we can't find chemo drugs to slow down my tumors I will be gone before Christmas! :O( 

I am on permenant chemo now :O( 

I am planning birthday parties for my 2 girls (turning 6 & 8 n the next couple of weeks) and also my own birthday in a month.....and it's really upset me as it could be the last birthdays I have with them....the hardest part it that I can't talk to my family about my fears as none of them want to hear it! they just say "don't be silly, you'll be around for years yet" but the fact is I probably won't be! I have secondaries to my chest nodes stomach nodes, arteries in my chest, liver, rght lung and pluera! I am bloody sick!

I have accepted this to a degree but none of my family are there yet....I have planned my funeral (which was actually quite fun) and wriiten my own Eulogy and my Mum is upset with me and won't even read it! The fact is...we will all die one day, I am just a bit more prepared than most is all :O)

 

Hi Belinda,

As another ABC woman, I can completely understand your feelings. It is great to be able to use this site to "vent", and vent we must. So much energy can be spent protecting our family and friends, so connection with others in similar situations is really helpful. I find your language very restrained!

I have no solutions though - we don't "battle" cancer, but endure what we must, and try to make the most we are able of every day we have. It's a wild ride.....

Best wishes..... Pam