Secondaries
I am dealing with secondaries...I'm not going to lie to you it is shit! planning your own funeral...crap! Telling your kids you won't see them grow up! totally, utterly gut wrenching crap!
Dealing...
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dear Belinda,
Last year I lost a girlfriend to an aggressive brain cancer - she was given a best case of 6 months (she actually made it to 3 and a half). Like you, she wanted people to accept that she was going to die, and to be ready for it. I asked her how she was dealing with each day and she told me she was just working through her own bucket list - a son's birthday, riding on a motorbike, going to her daughter's next concert, her granddaughter's first birthday - just ticking off each one as it came and hoping to get to the next one. Living every moment.
You scream and rant whenever you need to, make your plans and try to help your family see how important it is to YOU that they acknowledge what's happening. If it happens later rather than sooner, that'll be a bonus !! But let them know that if they really want to do anything for you, THIS is what they can do.
Take special care of yourself my dear. Spoil yourself as often as you can. And spoil your precious girls too with a lifetime of memories.
lots of love
Keitha