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11 years ago

Maxine

I have one more chemo treatment for secondary cancer which Was found just after Christmas on my 5 year anniversary of being cancer free so was very upset about it. My treatment has been almost side effect free just tired and sore legs. So now I have to get my head around the fact that I can't get a cure for this cancer but learn to keep it under control. I just don't know how I'm going to get out of my mind and try and live a normal so life until the next time it rears it ugly head.

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  • Hi Maxine,

    Getting that secondary diagnosis is an awful shock.  I had reached 10 years following mastectomy, chemo, radiotherapy and Tamoxifen.  Thought I was free and clear. Mets in my spine necessitated immediate surgery followed by 10 treatments of radiotherapy, Tamoxifen again for 6 yrs.  I got on with life, went back to work and made the most of  each day.  My next diagnosis 6 years late was in my liver followed by a variety of chemo treatments.  I have now been on regular chemo for 4 years and although at times the tiredness limits me, I have been able to do most things I want to do.

    My journey is now 21 years long and learning to live with the diagnosis  of secondaries took a long time but I have discovered talents that I never knew I had and embracing those together with the support of my husband and family and very close friends has helped me to come to terms with it. 

    Hang in there, look for things that will help to take your mind off the diagnosis and gradually you will learn to cope with it.

    All the best, lots of hugs and good thoughts go your way.

    Maggie

  • Hi Maxine,

    Getting that secondary diagnosis is an awful shock.  I had reached 10 years following mastectomy, chemo, radiotherapy and Tamoxifen.  Thought I was free and clear. Mets in my spine necessitated immediate surgery followed by 10 treatments of radiotherapy, Tamoxifen again for 6 yrs.  I got on with life, went back to work and made the most of  each day.  My next diagnosis 6 years late was in my liver followed by a variety of chemo treatments.  I have now been on regular chemo for 4 years and although at times the tiredness limits me, I have been able to do most things I want to do.

    My journey is now 21 years long and learning to live with the diagnosis  of secondaries took a long time but I have discovered talents that I never knew I had and embracing those together with the support of my husband and family and very close friends has helped me to come to terms with it. 

    Hang in there, look for things that will help to take your mind off the diagnosis and gradually you will learn to cope with it.

    All the best, lots of hugs and good thoughts go your way.

    Maggie

  • Hi Maxine, If you could let us know a few more details such as Blosssom29 suggested and you will be surprised that most of us have or have had exactly the same thoughts, fears and challenges that you do. Unfortunately secondary breast cancer is a whole different ball game than early breast cancer. This site is excellent as it Aussie ladies who are on it and from my experience in reading American websites, we have a better medical system. I've had secondaries for nearly 4.5 years and I still have questions!
  • Hi Maxine, If you could let us know a few more details such as Blosssom29 suggested and you will be surprised that most of us have or have had exactly the same thoughts, fears and challenges that you do. Unfortunately secondary breast cancer is a whole different ball game than early breast cancer. This site is excellent as it Aussie ladies who are on it and from my experience in reading American websites, we have a better medical system. I've had secondaries for nearly 4.5 years and I still have questions!
  • Hi Maxine,

    Sorry to hear about your secondary cancer.  I know what it is like to hear the news that our secondary breast cancer can hopefully be kept stable and not cured.  I know alot of us girls are here to support you.

    I had breast cancer 14 years ago before it returned and after that time I never thought that it would ever return. I consider my self to be lucky to have gone all thoes years cancer free.

    I now have mets in the spine, skull, neck ,and pelvis.  I have had chemo for 6 months,radiation treatment & now on Xeloda tablets which is keeping the cancer stable. I think with time you cope . I try to enjoy each day doing thing       i like to do. Enjoy ever moment with friends & family.

    You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

    We are her to support you.

    love Wendy 67

     

     

     

  • Sorry to hear of your secondary cancer Maxine, I am sure we would all like to hear a bit more about your story.  How was it detected?  What was your initial diagnosis? Did you have mastectomy? If you were at the five year mark, had you finished hormone treatment?

    Sorry to ask all of this, but you may be able to help one other on this site. It is also very beneficial to vent and put your story out there.

    Would love to hold you and give you a big squeze.

    Blossom

  • Sorry to hear of your secondary cancer Maxine, I am sure we would all like to hear a bit more about your story.  How was it detected?  What was your initial diagnosis? Did you have mastectomy? If you were at the five year mark, had you finished hormone treatment?

    Sorry to ask all of this, but you may be able to help one other on this site. It is also very beneficial to vent and put your story out there.

    Would love to hold you and give you a big squeze.

    Blossom