Hi Maxine,
If you could let us know a few more details such as Blosssom29 suggested and you will be surprised that most of us have or have had exactly the same thoughts, fears and challenges that you do.
Unfortunately secondary breast cancer is a whole different ball game than early breast cancer.
This site is excellent as it Aussie ladies who are on it and from my experience in reading American websites, we have a better medical system.
I've had secondaries for nearly 4.5 years and I still have questions!