Hi Kez
I agree - it is unfair. Why do we have to keep getting dished out all this crap?? I wish I had the answers but unfortunately I don't and nor do any of the pink ladies. All we can do is say we are so sorry you now find yourself on another crappy journey. It's just not fair sometimes. We are here for you and will help you get through. I don't know how I would cope if I was unable to visit this site and my pink sisters every day. They give me so much strength and understanding cause I know they are going through or have been through the same if not a lot worse. We are lucky we have this site to vent, ask, advise and to just get our thoughts and feeliings out there. I know personally that once I have got my fears out and shared with other people they seem lessened in some way. I hope we can do that for you.
My advice to you from my own dealings with this BC is as you say you have to take it sometimes an hour at a time and maybe a day at a time when you are up for it. I found keeping myself busy just doing anything, the things I love to do especially. Trying to not let yourself dwell on this shitty time and looking after yourself the whole way through.
I am so sorry you are having a tough old time but remember we are here for you and we know where you are coming from and what you will be going through.
Mich xo.
Hi, just wanted to drop you a line and say that I dont think this surgery will be as bad as you think, I had bilateral mastectomies with immediate expanders in may of this year and made it through only taking panadol/panadiene as morphine makes me feel like I am underwater, after what you have already been through I am sure you will be fine, I wasnt that attatched to my breast they had caused me nothing but pain all my life so, I guess that made it easier for me as well, I have awful scars and a way to go with a few more surgeries but in the end I think if we make the decision to fight then we really dont have a choice do we, it just has to be done, I did get a little sick of all the "oh you are so positive" "you are so strong" comments like I had a choice noooooot, we do it , we get through it, and it is bloody hard but, in the end we live, and that is the goal plan and simple, you have already showed you fighting spirit it is just time for one more round, gloves on and away you go, I know easier said than done but we are here as much as we can be xx
Cheers Narelle
Hi Kez, just start by one day at a time. You can do it just focus on each step as they appear and try not to be overwhelmed by the bigger picture. I did it with the help of this website, it was my saviour for information and to let me know I wasn't alone. I also cooked like a crazy woman because I love to cook. Do what you love when you are not fighting and go easy on yourself. Hang in there you will have bad days and good but in the end you will have learnt so much and be so much stronger for it. Take care Lara xx
