Is a blog over the top?

Oh I wish I had've thought about a blog!  I told very few people about my diagnosis because I didn't want the questions or messages saying how are you? What did the doctor say? What's next?  So only immediately family knew. I farmed out the job of answering people to my partner and daughter.  Each had a couple of people they needed to update and no-one was to contact me directly.  It took the pressure off me for having to keep repeating myself.  Even after I started getting out and about again I knew people would have questions.  I answered a few and then left my partner to do the story telling.  Again, I was sick of saying the same thing over and in the end I was just sick of talking about cancer.  I had to deal with it but didn't feel like everyone else had to, nor did I want it to be part of every conversation I had with people I saw afterwards.  I've probably told more people not that it's behind me than I did at the time.  Most react the same way......why didn't you tell me!!!  Because I just wanted to get on with it and get better.  Now that I am, I'm telling you.  People either understand or feel slghtly put out but either way it's really about me and what works best for me.  It sounds like the blog is what works best for you.  Good luck!!!  And not OTT at all.   :)

I read your blog @Kirrilee. Good stuff. Very relatable. Keep it going 👌🏻👌🏻♥️

I started a blog when I was recovering from surgery and gave the address to friends, family and colleagues.  I kept it updated with what was happening but also my state of mind mixed with general day-to-day stuff.  It meant that I didn't have to keep saying the same things over and over and I found that many people appreciated having that insight without having to ask, so it worked both ways.  Now I have a document that documents what I went through and how I felt about it, much of which I probably wouldn't remember otherwise.

I just finished reading and definitely not over the top. Good luck for your treatment x

Sounds like a good plan.  I had a select group of family and friends that I would send sms message too.  I would find repeating the story exhausting so I could just forward sms on.  I did this when I felt up to it.  Too technically challenged to do a blog myself. 🙂

Hi @Kirrilee that’s not over the top at all. It’s a great way to keep people updated. I agree with @jtee in that it is often hard talking to people as you do find yourself reassuring them when we are often trying to get some clarity ourselves. I also think it is an opportunity to spread the word about getting checkups etc as I know that a few of my friends have made sure they got their mammograms. Good luck with everything. 

Hello @Kirrilee
Not over the top at all. Not even a little bit. The only person that you should ever feel concerned is judging your for anything, is yourself. So if you’re ok with it, then do it. I actually think it’s a great idea, because writing things down helps release them, so it’s good for you too. Good on you 👌🏻😊♥️. 

Hi, 

I think we all do whatever we need to. I dont think its over top. Despite not really  being a facebooker i invited more people as a friend and just wrote about my experience. The advantage of limiting people to my mind allowed me to be unfiltered. I have overseas relatives so they could follow along. I made the decision that it was my journey and i used it as an opportunity to record what was going on. I can go back and remember certain things now which has been useful. I also posted other crafts and things i was working on to break it up. Some people found the topics (even baldness) a little confronting so i tried to post happy stuff occasionally. 

Michele

I was recently diagnosed too, and while I appreciated everyone's concern for me, I found keeping them informed took a lot of energy that I didn't have. Also, I found myself reassuring everyone I was fine, so they would feel better, rather than being able to be honest about how scared I was.
So I Googled and found CaringBridge, and set up my own 'site' (it's super easy, takes 5 min). As well as a journal where I can keep people updated, it has a Well Wishes section where people can leave me their thoughts, and words of support and encouragement. Being able to read through them all in one spot that I can access anytime will really help keep my spirits up. It also has a Planner, so if I need help with things, it will be easy to keep track of everything. It has already proven to be so helpful, and a way of managing keeping everyone informed. I can write my entries as slowly as I need to, which helps when I am having trouble forming my thoughts too!
I wish you all the best with the challenges that lie ahead for you. The biggest thing I have learned is the importance of reaching out - we are all here for whatever questions you have. You are not alone, and together we will all get through this. xoxo