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Wattlebird3
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17 hours ago

Telling my toddler and child I have breast cancer

Hi All, Last month I was diagnosed with IDC and 2 weeks ago I had a single mastectomy. I have a 3 and 5 yr old who I am struggling on how to discuss this with them. So far for all the surgeries and appointments we have told them 'Mummy has a sore booby' which has been enough for them. However I am likely to need chemotherapy and I with the likelyhood of hair loss I will need tell them more about what is going on. I have done reading online into how to do this however it seems to all be directed at older age groups. My children I dont think would understand cancer or even cells. We tell them to brush their teeth so they doing get bugs eating their teeth so I am worried to say I have a bug in my booby to them and scare them of bugs! Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I was wondering if anyone had found a good little video or book to help them understand what cancer is?

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    Mez_BCNA
    Community Manager

    Hi Wattlebird3​  - you are right, its such a tough topic to discuss with 'little ones' and the information can be geared more around older children.

    It still may be helpful to review BCNA resources specifically for parents navigating breast cancer, especially when it comes to supporting their children. 

    Talking to Children About Your Diagnosis

    • This article provides guidance on how to talk to children of different ages about a breast cancer diagnosis. It includes tips on how to reassure them, explain the illness in age-appropriate ways, and recognise signs of distress in children 
    • Read the article here

    I also wanted to share some other excellent Australian support services and resources that may be helpful:

    Mummy's Wish : Home_mw

    Mummy’s Wish is a wonderful Australian charity that provides practical and emotional support to mothers diagnosed with cancer who have children under the age of 13. They offer many different support and resources, several examples below:

    • Voice-recordable Comfort Bears for children to hear their mum’s voice when apart
    • Financial assistance for essentials like cleaning, groceries, and fuel
    • Counselling and emotional support to help navigate the emotional toll of cancer and parenting
    • Peer support groups, including:
    • private Facebook group for mums to connect

     

    Cancer Council – Talking to Kids About Cancer
    A comprehensive guide with practical advice on explaining cancer to children of different ages, including preschool-aged children, and supporting them through treatment and recovery.

    Cancer Hub https://cancerhub.org.au
    A free service delivered by Canteen, Camp Quality and Redkite that helps families with children aged 0–25 years access counselling, practical support, information and family-focused services.

    Hopefully the above provides something useful to support you during this time. Our Helpline team 1800 500 258 is always available to tell you more about the above resources.