Letting go of blame - WHY did I get cancer?

This is lovely in theory however my mother was recommended by two separate doctors/specialists to start HRT for her mild kidney disease and bone density at age 60, 6 months ago. She then immediately developed two separate hormone receptor positive breast cancers in the five months after that (oncologist said it would have grown over 5 months). We have been completely medically gaslit at every turn and I really just want someone to apologise to her. Not that it will change her situation it just sucks that she would never be in this situation without the ‘advice’ of a specialist that had just gone to a conference about HRT. She had to save up to go to that specialist. Also, the only reason she was convinced to try it is because I was due to have her grandchild whom she wanted to be at her healthiest for. Now she is having chemotherapy and can’t even hold my new baby. How is that for sliding door moments for you 🥲

My mother cared for both of her parents as they died of various cancers in their 60s, which I horrifically remember and have always lived in fear of history repeating with my mother (and my children experiencing it - full circle moment. Hooray!). She is the most caring, selfless person. She eats healthy, volunteers, has an active, physical job and doesn’t smoke or drink. My mother-in-law does all of the opposite and brags about her perfect health (like many others I know). The world has truly chewed and spit her out in so many ways I can’t even fathom and she continues to be the strongest most positive person I know. Even without being able to hold her grandchild we so wished for. She really has been through enough… but I guess not…

Anyway sorry to be such a downer. Good luck to everyone on their BC journeys! x