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Feeling like a failure
Hi. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in both breasts, two weeks ago and am heading in for surgery on the 13 February. I am having a bilateral mastectomy. To be honest l am not overly concerned. ...
Hi @Karma03
There is nothing like a potentially life threatening illness to destabilize us and make us pour over what went wrong. In the last 14 years I've given myself a fair hiding at times over what I could have, should have, shouldn't have done that might have made a difference. In the end, I've realised that you can't diet, detox, exercise, threaten, cajole, promise or buy your way out of this situation. No one can.
Some of us get angry, some crawl under a rock or get the guilts, others try to change their lives. What ever you feel is relevant because it's your body, your life and your disease.
I know it is very naughty of me to say this, but I can assure you that getting rid of very large heavy breasts has a number of advantages, even though none of us wants to be put in the position of having to make the choice.
You sound like a fairly pragmatic person, that will be a help to you in the next few months.
Good luck and hang in there. Mxx
There is nothing like a potentially life threatening illness to destabilize us and make us pour over what went wrong. In the last 14 years I've given myself a fair hiding at times over what I could have, should have, shouldn't have done that might have made a difference. In the end, I've realised that you can't diet, detox, exercise, threaten, cajole, promise or buy your way out of this situation. No one can.
Some of us get angry, some crawl under a rock or get the guilts, others try to change their lives. What ever you feel is relevant because it's your body, your life and your disease.
I know it is very naughty of me to say this, but I can assure you that getting rid of very large heavy breasts has a number of advantages, even though none of us wants to be put in the position of having to make the choice.
You sound like a fairly pragmatic person, that will be a help to you in the next few months.
Good luck and hang in there. Mxx