I think, I hope I have learnt my lesson. NO is not a mean word

Its been quite some time since posting anything.
I do get on and have a quick browse for inspiration. And insight into reminding that I’m not alone and that What’s happening etc someone else has something similar regarding my Life since BC, 4+ long years
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I was doing alright saying no for a time but back to my old habits, someone asks and I say yes before realising what the impact on me will be.
between work and my regular babysitter (grandkids) duties which I love doing.
I have over committed myself again and have left myself so tired after the other requests I’ve said yes to,
I waste one of my days off in bed after lunch and not able to get up till it’s time to get ready for work.
As I’m having my 6 month Oncologist check up next week along with the usual tests before that. I said you are going to have to make other arrangements as I can’t fit it. Organise something else, quickly answered oh I’ll just go stay at ?! Place. Thats when I realised was being used by an 18 year old lazy brat that played on my generosity and sympathy.
I’m determined to get my life back.
Regular walks
Get Back into my hobbies
visiting my friends and family again
back to healthy eating at regular times.
Wish me luck getting it all to happen
I do get on and have a quick browse for inspiration. And insight into reminding that I’m not alone and that What’s happening etc someone else has something similar regarding my Life since BC, 4+ long years
Back to my TITLE.
I was doing alright saying no for a time but back to my old habits, someone asks and I say yes before realising what the impact on me will be.
between work and my regular babysitter (grandkids) duties which I love doing.
I have over committed myself again and have left myself so tired after the other requests I’ve said yes to,
I waste one of my days off in bed after lunch and not able to get up till it’s time to get ready for work.
As I’m having my 6 month Oncologist check up next week along with the usual tests before that. I said you are going to have to make other arrangements as I can’t fit it. Organise something else, quickly answered oh I’ll just go stay at ?! Place. Thats when I realised was being used by an 18 year old lazy brat that played on my generosity and sympathy.
I’m determined to get my life back.
Regular walks
Get Back into my hobbies
visiting my friends and family again
back to healthy eating at regular times.
Wish me luck getting it all to happen
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Saying No it's not always easy to family and friends but hopefully saying No now will make you feel liberated. It's also a reminder the toll diagnosis and treatment has had.......fatigue, a gentle reminder to look after you!!
Best wishes in juggling work and home
Take care
Id like to hear I’ll do that for you. doesn’t happen very often anymore. So the gutters etc are full.
my bones ache my head hurts my vision is failing fast and whole heap more just doesn’t work like it used to. But I’m alive and will soldier on.
Yes @Blossom1961 old habits keep coming back. Once upon a time it never bothered me. But now I don’t realise I haven’t got the stamina anymore till I’ve overdone it and crash.
ive gotten used to the numb finger tips just keep my nails trimmed and no polish that feeling of always having dirt under them. And the toes and part of the 1 foot always feeling like they’re in icy water I can push that to the side.
Pits the aches that never seem to go away unless I drug myself up. And that’s not happening till it can’t be avoided
I just have to remember to slow the pace down. I can’t clean the entire house and yard in 1 day anymore
I understand that its the drugs combination that I am and have been on for 8 years, I am so grateful for my family and friends they know whats happening and will plan things around me as best they can, my evening social life ended about 7 years ago and I am most happy in front of the tv watching a favourite program, that said I have managed to fold the washing my partner put out and have got the sprinklers on back and front I am not able to stand and water any more so I cheat!!,
my dog is the biggest loser in all of this as I cannot walk her any more just as well shes very happy running around the back yard chasing the sprinkler!!
Its so good to be able to talk like this knowing that you all understand, people have to walk in our shoes to get it!
Thanks again ladies,
wendy55
Heart goes out to you!
It is, unfortunately, how it is but you have it under control and manage your days accordingly!
Cheers to effective treatment
Take care and best wishes
@wendy55 your positive attitude is inspiring, best wishes to you.
went to one of my daughters house for a hug.
And yes mum you have to go back to saying NO!
Out of the mouths of babes. my little namesake granddaughter comes over and has a cry on my lap and says I miss playing a your house with you nanny when are you going to be home for me to come. Your always out. we now have a play date booked
if that isn’t enough reason nothing is.
Just needed that to show I was spreading myself too thin.
But anyway it has given me more incentive to get my NO happening more
living alone is great I can do so much more without having to consider anyone else.
Had my play date was wonderful.
More power to me I say