Hi. I'm Cath, I'm 45 & yesterday I was diagnosed with Triple Negative, Invasive 5.6cm tumour, Grade 3. Less than two weeks ago I was rubbing Vicks on my chest for a persistent cough and found a huge lump - what a fortnight!
Life was just settling into a calmer rhythm than it has been for many years after moving into our new house in April with my precious daughters who are 7 & 10yrs old & our gorgeous lab Roxy. We left our family home in August 2015 due to domestic violence and lived in temporary accommodation during the sale of our house & divorce settlement. I'm gutted that this diagnosis has rocked the joy of our new safe place.
In 2009 whilst pregnant with my 2nd daughter I was diagnosed with vulval cancer (Extramammary Paget's Disease of the Vulva). I had a partial vulvectomy in 2009 & with a recurrence in 2010 had further surgery. Each surgery put me out of action for 3 months. My 1st surgery was when my daughter was 10 weeks, the second she was 14mths old. I feel I've had my fair share of life dramas and this is just too much!
I'm fortunate that my Mum is able to come and live with us while I undergo surgery & treatments to help keep the ship afloat. I have a really great group of supportive friends but none that have received a cancer diagnosis. I've explained the whole situation to my girls & it helps that my mum had a mastectomy 21 years ago for DCIS so my girls are used to the look of a single breast and prosthetic.
I have an appointment with my surgeon on Friday morning to find out the plan for the coming months.
Do you have any tips for a newbie? Questions I should ask at the surgeon on Friday?