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Re: Creative Corner!
Thanks for the great instructions @Annie C. I bought myself a HQ sweet sixteen after my sister passed away from a brain tumour, sister in law passed away from MND & 2 friends were diagnosed with different cancers last year. Life’s to short to not do what you want. I haven’t done a full size quilt yet though. This is from a friends cut off triangles I made into pinwheels and added scrappy strips
Jwrenn
5
Re: Lumpectomy tomorrow - lobular cancer and so scared
Lobular for me too. Five years ago today. Never a mention about an mri. 55mm so followed up with chemo rads and hormone treatment and doing fine. Fingers crossed all goes well for you
Blondy
5
Pain Pain go away
Pain pain go away come again another day
laying in bed listening to the thunderstorm raging outside. Instead of the usual ditty it comes out as above
I’m at the max of my drugs and my head is spinning and tummy is churning
bad night tonight. Matching the weather outside.
laying in bed listening to the thunderstorm raging outside. Instead of the usual ditty it comes out as above
I’m at the max of my drugs and my head is spinning and tummy is churning
bad night tonight. Matching the weather outside.
Sorry for the gripe. It helps the emotions to get it out. Just wish that worked on my aches and pains.
Physio and counselling not till next week cant come soon enough for me.
Re: Simple checking in
Aaah....what I call the Cancer Colander. It tends to sift out the real friends from the rest. As mentioned by others, some just don't know what to say and so say nothing, others give the token "If there's anything I can do, just let me know"...yeah right...like you're going to say something like "Well actually, there is could you do X Y or Z for me"? Almost as good as the faux invite for dinner...you know the old..."You must pop round for dinner one night". Again knowing full well you won't be phoning up the following week and basically inviting yourself to dinner on Wednesday.
AllyJay
5
Re: Simple checking in
Thanks everyone for all your positive words of encouragement and wisdom. I feel much better today.😊
It is comforting knowing that we are all here to support each other and can benefit from each other’s experiences.
I will definitely check out the online resources and the helpline for a chat. It is funny though - sometimes it can be a chat with a stranger that makes it feel better. When I first spoke to my health insurance provider I broke down on the phone to the woman on the other end and she was absolutely fantastic.
Positive vibes today. And I love the Friends are Like Knickers post @AllyJay - made me smile😊
Positive vibes today. And I love the Friends are Like Knickers post @AllyJay - made me smile😊
Natjess
5
Re: A big welcome to all our New Members .....
yes thank you so much, as I have just been diagnosed, and very new to the site, so grateful for all these wonderful posts.
BeauJ
5
Devastated
Had my right masectomy n right axcillary clearance on 19 May. Today met up with my breast specialist that the result shows is grade 3 n the tumor is 7cm n 3 lymph nodes affected. But my left breast ultrsound initially show as burnout fibroadenoma now the surgeon wants it to have a biopsy for confirmation. Also my PET scan shows some activity in my liver so need to do a liver MRI for futher investigation. I'm so devastated n lost. I want to fight back but seems to get bad news after bad news.I really don't know what to do.
Siewli
5
Re: I don't feel like myself
Just to add to these amazing women’s comments, don’t forget being a carer is a huge stress and time consuming, and when you’re juggling being a carer with your own health issues (like me, my mum has BC), work (single parent to teen with additional needs), it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself. Side effects add something else.
I definitely agree, it’s worth seeing a counsellor. Just the caring and seeing your loved one declining in health is hard enough, and the BC diagnosis is a shock to the system and whirlwind, and it doesn’t sound like you’ve really had a chance to process your own feelings since diagnosis. Hang in there but definitely remember the diagnosis and treatment is a lot to process, but managing being a carer is a lot too. I nearly got severe burnout because of not taking time for selfcare and to process my own feelings, and with the support of my treatment team, mum’s treatment team, my sons exec, counselling, and safe spaces to talk, plus ensuring I have time just for me; I’m teary at times (rare for me and not med related in my case), but I’m starting to find a balance and come out of the burnout that I got close to.
perhaps now the whirlwind has eased things are more visible and feelings you hadn’t processed are arising. Selfcare and even a short stint of counselling might help, but don’t forget the selfcare especially as a carer with your own health needs 🌺
perhaps now the whirlwind has eased things are more visible and feelings you hadn’t processed are arising. Selfcare and even a short stint of counselling might help, but don’t forget the selfcare especially as a carer with your own health needs 🌺
GenK
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