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Re: Is that right? Did you really say that?
Well @Hoppe thats one 'friend' sorted into the delete bin. Don't mourn their loss. There is plenty of support here. It's very sad that we find out when we really need them, who is really a true friend. Her loss not yours. Keep your pecker up and do what you have to do. Your #1 main priority is you. Take care
Blondy
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Re: Different types of cancer
I wish someone had told be about this forum when I was diagnosed... instead I ranted all my emotions and feelings in a journal first and now in the form of poems. It sure would have been lovely to have vented here and not been judged but supported... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger eh?! My late mother (who also passed from BC) would also have said "no rest for the wicked and only the good die young!!" God, that being the case I'm going to go down in the Guinness book of records as the longest living woman!! Woo hoo! 
Re: Today’s Mood: cranky with a touch of psycho
YOU sound exhausted stargirl - Maybe accepting that if the beds are not made does it matter? if the boys pee on the bathroom floor make them clean it up (yes it is quicker for you to do,) but by making them do it they learn consequences to their actions. Let go of the perfect house setting.....
My joke to friends is that the dust is my deceased friends visiting as ashes to ashes dust to dust .... etc..... before I was paranoid about an unclean house and dust etc.... but now I dont sweat the small stuff as the hot flushes do enough sweating for us all....
Hugs and know You are enough....
Re: Is that right? Did you really say that?
Oh I've heard some real doozies, but as with so many things and situations in my life, all 59 years of it, I resort to humour, often very black. I've had a few people squirm a tad, when I turn it on myself, such as saying things like, "Oooh I'd give my left tit for..." whatever it is being discussed. Followed up with, "Of course, if I still had one, or even a right one, come to that"... That sort of self deprecating humour has always been part of my personality, and I don't intend to change. It has gotten me through many tough situations in the past, and I reckon I'll still be the same until they nail my box shut one day.
AllyJay
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Re: Today’s Mood: cranky with a touch of psycho
Ha @StarGirl I've been going to yoga classes for nearly three decades because I really enjoy the challenge of making my body respond to odd instructions. Bend over, put your arse in the air, deep breaths then move into a lunge. The ''woo hoo' side of it leaves me completely cold. Get the fuck out of my head with your 'breath into your feet' nonsense. I either lie there rigid with disapproval or leave before meditation time.
The people I'm paying have to understand that this is not a personal insult and when they say 'listen to your body and do what suits you' I take that as affirmation that I can do exactly that. Embrace the parts of the practice that you and leave the rest.
I am getting better at lying still, but I suspect that is because I'm generally exhausted and will embrace any chance to rest. I still don't like them trying to puddle around in my brain.
The people I'm paying have to understand that this is not a personal insult and when they say 'listen to your body and do what suits you' I take that as affirmation that I can do exactly that. Embrace the parts of the practice that you and leave the rest.
I am getting better at lying still, but I suspect that is because I'm generally exhausted and will embrace any chance to rest. I still don't like them trying to puddle around in my brain.
Zoffiel
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Re: Completely overwhelmed
Hi @Loobylou. Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry you've found yourself here. I hope you find it as helpful and supportive as I have. It's a great hive mind, and good for a laugh, a vent and a whinge!
It does all move incredibly fast at the beginning, and for many, treatment plans change when pathology comes back.
It does all move incredibly fast at the beginning, and for many, treatment plans change when pathology comes back.
Everything you're feeling, experiencing and expressing is entirely normal. Everyone here has been there, we get it. So take some deep breaths and slow everything down.
It's very easy to get fast tracked onto the private health treatment conveyor belt. You get to say stop. Do you like your oncologist? You can ask them if they work in the public system, many of them do.
Do not hesitate to say "how much will that cost me?" at every step of the way. If you get an answer you don't like, ask if there's a cheaper way to do it. You can go to your GP tomorrow and ask to be referred into the public system immediately, where you will pay little to nothing for your treatment. You can mix public and private treatment. Many get treated privately untill radiotherapy, when they go public. Radiotherapy is very expensive in the private system.
The care you receive publicly will be equal to private care. The biggest difference is your choice in personnel. You tend not to get it in the public system. Ie, you may not see the same oncologist each time, depending on how your local hospital/treatment centre is run.
It's very easy to get fast tracked onto the private health treatment conveyor belt. You get to say stop. Do you like your oncologist? You can ask them if they work in the public system, many of them do.
Do not hesitate to say "how much will that cost me?" at every step of the way. If you get an answer you don't like, ask if there's a cheaper way to do it. You can go to your GP tomorrow and ask to be referred into the public system immediately, where you will pay little to nothing for your treatment. You can mix public and private treatment. Many get treated privately untill radiotherapy, when they go public. Radiotherapy is very expensive in the private system.
The care you receive publicly will be equal to private care. The biggest difference is your choice in personnel. You tend not to get it in the public system. Ie, you may not see the same oncologist each time, depending on how your local hospital/treatment centre is run.
The learning curve when you're diagnosed with breast cancer is a vertical straight line. Fire away with your questions. There's almost always someone here who knows the answers. And if they don't, they know someone who does. There are others here who can speak to your private vs public better than I. Hopefully they'll be along soon!
And you can always call BCNA helpline on 1800 500 258. They're great listeners and fantastic experts on all things BC related.
Hang in there. Big hug, K xox
kmakm
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Re: 2 year all-clear, 2 year all-fear.
How about 'Now What? The highs and lows of survivorship'. This category can also be about acknowledging the wins and good days. What do you think? I would lke to get it up for you toay so you can start over the weekend so let me know your thoughts asap.
