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Mells
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12 years ago

Baby after breast cancer

Hi Ladies, I was diagnosed with TNBC in April. I have had a lumpectomy & nodes removed from my right arm. I have 4 weeks left of chemo, then 6 weeks of rads straight after & waiting on genetic testing. Has anyone out there had a baby after treatment? If so was there a wait period? I've tried talking to my surgeon & he just says its up to me. I'm feeling really confused, I really want another baby, but is it silly & selfish as I could have a recurrence? Thanks Mells
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  • Ronni70's avatar
    Ronni70
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    12 years ago
    I was diagnosed while breast feeding my daughter. I am tnbc. I have had an uphill battle, as all of us have. I tried for years to become pregnant with my daughter. Finally i fell pregnant and got cancer. Who knows what lies ahead. Falling pregnant is sometimes a crap shoot. Cancer or no cancer. My thoughts are keep trying but don't let it engulf you. There is always something positive to be taken from all of this. Granted, some days I can't see it....but, we are breathing air and living life. That is always something to be thankful for. The rest is icing!
  • Mells's avatar
    Mells
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    12 years ago
    Thanks Sillysam83, I will look up the group on Facebook! And good luck with everything xx
  • eminem's avatar
    eminem
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    12 years ago

    Once you have children its not just about you anymore. Every decision you make affects them too. Deciding to have children after breast cancer is an extremely risky decision especially if you already have a child. Don't get me wrong - I want to be pregnant again more than anything and always wanted a big family. It is killing me not having more children. Robbing my fiance and my daughter. But the alternative just isn't an option. My cancer was hormone fed. Making it likely to come back again once pregnant. I can't speak for all the other women who have had babies after breast cancer as every situation is different but for me it is simple. I will not leave my child without a mother. I won't die trying to have another and leave two children without a mother. My daughter needs a mother more than a brother or sister. My fiance and I - as unfortunate as it is - just have to suck it up and be happy with our miracle daughter. Which is way more than what other cancer suffers have.

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    Mells
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    12 years ago
    Thanks so much everyone for saying hi and your comments. I do feel better now that I'm on here, and that there are people out there that understand. I know Iam so lucky to have a beautiful little girl. I guess for now ill just wait and see and concentrate on the rest of my treatment. And I agree with you kirboxx I'm getting sick of living in fear so trying to think of the future more now! :)
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    eminem
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    12 years ago

    Hi I find all those comments so interesting. My onc has said NO to more babies when I was hoping he wud say YES. It really does seen up to the individual but yes mells I too am scared of reccurence as I am er2 aswell. Such a tough call. I have a 4 year old daughter. And just couldn't risk leaving her without a mother so as hard as a decision as it is 4 me it really is a no brainer. Sadly no more kids for me. 

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    Kirboxx
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    12 years ago
    I'm ER+, had lumpectomy and axillary clearance, 6 rounds of FEC and Docataxel. I'll be on zoladex for another 2 years from now (finished rads 6 weeks ago). On tamoxifen for 5 years but my onc has said that its a good possibility I can take a break after my 2 years of zoladex and try. One onc said no but another has said yes so ultimately it will be my decision in the end.
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    Kirboxx
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    12 years ago
    I'm ER+, had lumpectomy and axillary clearance, 6 rounds of FEC and Docataxel. I'll be on zoladex for another 2 years from now (finished rads 6 weeks ago). On tamoxifen for 5 years but my onc has said that its a good possibility I can take a break after my 2 years of zoladex and try. One onc said no but another has said yes so ultimately it will be my decision in the end.
  • lisa8's avatar
    lisa8
    Member
    12 years ago
    Hi Mells, I had triple neg bc in 2008 and was told to wait at least 2 years before having a baby. I waited 3 years before getting pregnant and had my son in 2012. I had him naturally, no IVF and I had AC chemo and taxol. Good luck xox Lisa
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    Stressmagnet
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    12 years ago
    Hi there! I'm TBNC too, but I've had my kids so really, this is just to say hi. I'm 6 years strong despite the odd hiccup, and I was diagnosed when my youngest was 4. There's some great resources here, so jump in.