Hi Holly,
Welcome to the network. It's the support group that has been my lifeline. You've been through a lot. And Yes there are so many different breast cancers that everyone's treatment is slightly different depending on the pathology.
Contact the Look good Feel better to attend a workshop. I had a fun day sitting with a bald head being pampered with makeup, and tried various wigs. I found various ways to tie scarves from youtube. There's also a young women's support group online here and also through cancer council. I joined a yoga group during my chemo at the Chris O'Brien lifehouse, most of us are BC women of all ages. It's been invigorating, relaxing and a great way to meet other women (we have lunch afterwards). I'm sure most hospitals now have yoga.
What you're experiencing is entirely normal with the emotions. The amount of times I've cried in doctors' surgeries and gone through tissue boxes at home. You haven't done anything wrong (I thought that too!) It doesn't help when doctors can't give you a cause. We don't feel sick but the treatment makes us sick.
I've found the menopause symptoms to be depressing, no sleep doesn't help and I've started taking remifemin (recommended by my oncologist)Exercise is the key too, even just a walk.
Take one thing at a time,
Sending you a big hug,
Karen xx