Hi @tisme, being a single parent myself (although my child is an adult now) , I can really understand the fear you are going through! To my way of understanding, psychologists are not trained in a way to understand individual struggles, but they really try to get us to search within for the answers for ourselves. I agree a meet up group may be of help. Perhaps a group that have children/adults with autism? Support groups can be of great value, as those in the group have "lived" experience, whereas most psychologists have "text book" experience.
Don't underestimate your own potential to know what is best for you @tisme, and please don't listen to those that give up on you and your situation!