What do I do now?
Hi everyone, I havent posted for a while as I was going through radiation, after my surgery, which is now completed and I did okay, just treating the leftover burns and itchiness which is apparently n...
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Hi @Bettyboo - the girls above have given you some wonderful advice and counselling - and you are definitely not alone in this feeling. Your 'planned life' has been knocked off it's rails & you've had some hard things go on over the last 'x' months ..... congrats on getting thru your rads OK! Hopefully your skin will settle down nicely - mine did (altho the boob stayed SO WARM for so long!!)
I reckon every one of us goes thru a form of depression at times - particularly after the active treatment has finished (surgery, chemo, rads) and you are then on meds & 'on your own'.
Do you have any favourite past-times that you enjoy? Be it knitting, singing, cooking, painting, volunteering in local hospitals, lawn bowls, gardening etc that you may be able to get back into? I find that being kept busy helps .... if you are concentrating on things, it diverts your mind from worrying about things - even if only for the short term.
'Feeling a bit adrift' nails it on the head! What a great term! I am great at some decision making - but the one to declutter the house in the event of a move to a smaller one in the next 'x' years is the one I just can't motivate myself to do! :( I will do anything else BUT that! But I know I will have to do something sooner or later! So far, it will be later! LOL
Some retirement villages allow you to 'stay there' for a week or two, to get the feel of them (there may be a fee for this but often it is waived if you then DO decide to move in.) Just make sure you get a solicitor or accountant or someone you really trust to go over the 'deeds & rules' before committing to it. Especially re 'exit clauses' - you need to understand how that works. Some retirement villages have savage 'exit clauses' in case of hospitalisation etc!
Take care, and all the best for your ongoing care & treatment xxx
I reckon every one of us goes thru a form of depression at times - particularly after the active treatment has finished (surgery, chemo, rads) and you are then on meds & 'on your own'.
Do you have any favourite past-times that you enjoy? Be it knitting, singing, cooking, painting, volunteering in local hospitals, lawn bowls, gardening etc that you may be able to get back into? I find that being kept busy helps .... if you are concentrating on things, it diverts your mind from worrying about things - even if only for the short term.
'Feeling a bit adrift' nails it on the head! What a great term! I am great at some decision making - but the one to declutter the house in the event of a move to a smaller one in the next 'x' years is the one I just can't motivate myself to do! :( I will do anything else BUT that! But I know I will have to do something sooner or later! So far, it will be later! LOL
Some retirement villages allow you to 'stay there' for a week or two, to get the feel of them (there may be a fee for this but often it is waived if you then DO decide to move in.) Just make sure you get a solicitor or accountant or someone you really trust to go over the 'deeds & rules' before committing to it. Especially re 'exit clauses' - you need to understand how that works. Some retirement villages have savage 'exit clauses' in case of hospitalisation etc!
Take care, and all the best for your ongoing care & treatment xxx