Music: what song you are listening to...invites and answers the question ‘how are you’
...my go to song at present is Paloma Faith ‘Better Than This’ A refocus perhaps. What is your go to song? x
Forum Discussion
All the songs on here are great- my personal fave is “ Hallelujia” although not sung by the original writer Leonard Cohen.
As to the other part of the heading
“ Answers to the question : How Are You?” , my approach is :
1.If I haven’t told them of my diagnosis and don’t intend to - “Fine”,
or if it’s a really bad day I may say “ I’m pretty tired today “.
2..If I have told them my diagnosis my standard answer is “ fine all things considered”, or if it’s a really shut day I may say I’m a bit tired.
3.If they are a close friend or relative with empathy I may tell them the exact truth depending on my mood.
given that almost all the people asking have not been through the cancer shut fest, they are generally well intentioned and the question “ How are you” is so ingrained as a greeting it’s not really totally fair to be upset with people for asking it.
but it does sometimes bring a tear.
As to the other part of the heading
“ Answers to the question : How Are You?” , my approach is :
1.If I haven’t told them of my diagnosis and don’t intend to - “Fine”,
or if it’s a really bad day I may say “ I’m pretty tired today “.
2..If I have told them my diagnosis my standard answer is “ fine all things considered”, or if it’s a really shut day I may say I’m a bit tired.
3.If they are a close friend or relative with empathy I may tell them the exact truth depending on my mood.
given that almost all the people asking have not been through the cancer shut fest, they are generally well intentioned and the question “ How are you” is so ingrained as a greeting it’s not really totally fair to be upset with people for asking it.
but it does sometimes bring a tear.