Is that right? Did you really say that?

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I hope this discussion keeps going. I check out whether there are any new gems every time I come on line.

@Flaneuse and @Molly001: Yes, I thought it was pretty 'naive'.  In the public system, they are very thorough with their follow-up checks, but you see a different doctor (registrar i.e. training doctor) each time.  I saw my actual breast surgeon once at the beginning of the whole treatment planning bit  (November 2015) and then I saw him next, just last week at my insistence, as the above registrar's opening statement to me at what I thought was just a follow-up was: "Has anyone spoken to you about a mastectomy?" He has a lot to learn and hopefully I helped his education. The breast surgeon took my dismay on board, and was very kind and helpful.  I wonder how yr hairdresser thought it could it "be worse"???? It is hard for others I think;  comments range from: [no comment...I'll just change the subject/run away now].....to "oh, it's all for a reason"...."oh yes, my sister had that and she's fine!"......erk.

@Lozang The words "in your lifetime" seem a bit superfluous. Like, as opposed to "after your lifetime"?! Silly person. My hairdresser the other day, "Could be worse." Then she admitted, "I never know what to say to people going through a rough time." Clearly.

@Lozang I know there's no point sugar coating a diagnosis, but OMG, that is purely an opinion, and not a helpful one. Love your response! Lol!

Recent follow-up check, these words came from the registrar/doctor: "you know that you will certainly get a return of breast cancer in your lifetime"....to which I replied, "I could also get hit by a bus tomorrow".  

OH @Molly001 you must be an angel,
 I would of slapped the stupid out her by now.....
one thing BC has done is lower my level of patience with stupidity.....
 

My neighbour... how are you going?
Me... not too bad, getting there slowly
Neighbour... they er, um, did sort you out. Fix you up, right?

Same neighbour... so many people are getting bc now it's like a flu pandemic.

She means well.

I was worried about telling my mum i had Breast  cancer as her mum had died at a young age from metastatic breast cancer.  I went to see her on the day I was due to fly out on a holiday. I said you had better sit down. “Mum I’ve got breast cancer.”  Reply “me too”.   It was the start of our treatment together same day surgery, same surgeon .  On the day of our surgery the nurse was diplomatically fishing about my surname.  Is you surname common?  I said no it’s not and that’s my mum in the cubicle around the corner.  We were in hospital for almost a week together and it was the talk of the ward in a good way. 

@joannie yes I’m into fitness cycling also lead a busy life working and used to do a lot of extra at work, commiitttees mentoring etc to advance my career plus family etc I’ve had to reduce what I do to manage treatment etc but one year on feeling a bit bored and ready to do a bit more. I’ve cycled for 25 years, I’m sure it kept me sane  during this last year even when I could barely cycle due to the effects of  rad treatment