Is that right? Did you really say that?

@Doodoo OMG! It's crazy how people feel they get to comment on your appearance like that. How insensitive and rude.

A woman I’ve known most of my life (not a friend), saw me a few weeks ago & said * I’ve got a suggestion. If you’re going to wear that thing on your head, you need to pulls some strands of hair out! You look like you’ve been sick* 😳 

I don't know how far you are from hospital but maybe taxi is the way to go.  I had my port put in under general so always knew that I wouldn't be allowed to drive afterwards.  

If your hospital is a public one, could you ask for a cab voucher? Once I was told they needed my bed in A & E at 2 am after telling my husband (at about 10 pm after we had been there since 9 am the previous morning) that he could go home. They said I'd be kept overnight and sent to the EMU ward, and would be reassessed in the morning. I knew he would have had a beer when he got home and that he wouldn't drive, even although he would have been well under the limit. I refused to pay $120.00 for a cab, as if I had known that they were going to discharge me that night, I would have gone home with him four hours before. They offered me a cab voucher (they must have really wanted that bed)!!! and I accepted. At least I got to sleep in my own bed for a few hours. As it happened, I was called back to the hospital by my neurosurgeon's registrar the next morning, and spent the following nine days as their bed hogging guest.

@AllyJay I’m putting on my respiratory mask (yes I took a box or two from my last shift at the hospital before going on leave 😂😉) and going to head to the beach to walk my pooch. Chin up is right. Enough wallowing time for living. 

I know I would be fine to drive after a few hours but no one can guarantee they won’t give me any midaz etc and I don’t want to be cohersed into signing a discharge against medical advice form if no “responsible carer” is there to pick me up. 
The self pity today though is real - like it was my choice to get cancer at 27 when my mum died 10 years ago, dad is hopeless, sister disabled and hubs family all overseas. 
But chin up buttercup outside for fresh air I go!

Hi there @youngdogmum...chin up sweetie pie. One positive thing from this shitfest, called the "journey"..(.shudder, how I hate that term), is that it sorts the wheat from the chaff. These offers such as "Pleeeeease, if there's aaaaanything I can do, just let me know", fall into the same category as "How lovely to see you, you must come around for dinner one day".....Yeah right...like you're going to ring up and say "Ohh hi there, it's me, I was thinking maybe Friday next week....for the dinner???" Bah...about as genuine as a cubic zirconia ring....looks kinda real, sparkles nicely...and worth shit. I wish I could send my golden carriage to take you, but unfortunately, it has turned into a pumpkin and we made friiters out of it and ate it. But seriously, I wish I could take you, but I can share this. I had my port put in in October 2016...still have it....under local anaesthetic (long story). I then had my first chemo using it about two hours later. It really wasn't that painful, just very uncomfortable and scary as I was awake. Apart from two very small scars. one on upper chest and one on my neck, it is hardly noticeable to others. Big (((hug)))...Ally.

I am starting to learn how lonely this road really is. 
Hubby can’t drive me to and from my port insertion; he’s just started a new job and arranged Tuesday off specifically to take
me to chemo. I don’t want him to make a bad impression and rearrange the schedule so soon. So I beg my oldest friends last night only to be met with lots of excuses. Wow, just wow. I mean I’ve heard some doozies like everyone else above but from people who are offering to help, so when you actually ask there’s nothing? 

Oh dear @Brenda5 - that’s a shocker.   Are you sure she isn’t in early dementia?  They can say and do inappropriate things, seriously!   I’d been wondering about Keith for 5 years+ before it was finally confirmed by diagnosis.

Vent all you like here, we’ve got your back covered xxxx

@Brenda5 That's horrendous for you! You must feel so hurt. Sounds like she's in denial. I've forgotten if you've mentioned if you have a counsellor ... this is one to talk through, maybe? Huge hug. Fran xox

When showing my mother my cancer on my finger and two smaller ones on my leg she told me I worry too much about myself. What the?