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Oh my God I'm so happy I found this post! I find I'm dealing more with the hurt of finding out people really don't give a crap about me, rather than the BC itself! I have family who are so self-centred and I only realised in the last few years after a different medical situation. From my Mum especially, who I've always been the emotional support for, for my entire life.
All the pamphlets say 'talk to family and friends about your fears'. Haha! Sorry who?? My opening line is a trigger for my parents to go on about themselves. After telling them I had BC, my mum apparently rang my sister and said "I don't know what's happening, why is all this bad luck happening to us". Us???
After I rang and told my mother-in-law, my sister in law then rang my husband to say we should all have dinner to catch up and then sat there with a smirk she couldn't cover up while my husband tried to tell everyone about my cancer without crying. I mistook her smirk for shock and tried comforting her. Imagine the feeling when I found out later they all already knew. They all live 2 minutes away!!
Everyone else who is supposed family? Maybe a messenger message, no visits or support.
Most support has come from my Softball team who I've only known a few months!
But you know what? They have all given me permission to worry only about me. They've given me permission to never worry about them. They've given me permission to not feel the guilt I usually do if I can't help someone. They've given me permission to not need their permission to live my own life. It's just pretty lonely, and yet there are people all around me!
All the pamphlets say 'talk to family and friends about your fears'. Haha! Sorry who?? My opening line is a trigger for my parents to go on about themselves. After telling them I had BC, my mum apparently rang my sister and said "I don't know what's happening, why is all this bad luck happening to us". Us???
After I rang and told my mother-in-law, my sister in law then rang my husband to say we should all have dinner to catch up and then sat there with a smirk she couldn't cover up while my husband tried to tell everyone about my cancer without crying. I mistook her smirk for shock and tried comforting her. Imagine the feeling when I found out later they all already knew. They all live 2 minutes away!!
Everyone else who is supposed family? Maybe a messenger message, no visits or support.
Most support has come from my Softball team who I've only known a few months!
But you know what? They have all given me permission to worry only about me. They've given me permission to never worry about them. They've given me permission to not feel the guilt I usually do if I can't help someone. They've given me permission to not need their permission to live my own life. It's just pretty lonely, and yet there are people all around me!