Yeah, support--and disappointment--come from unexpected quarters. I accept most people don't know what to say. Hell, I've been through this twice and I still dont know what to say.
I think I've developed a 'emdar' that identifies people who are genuinely kind and empathetic and flags those who are just curious, speculative or looking for a juicy story to tell at their next coffee klatch. I've lost friends (can you? Or were you wrong from the start) and had some people i hardly knew surprise me with their unqualified support. Those with a mild case of the bumbles and foot in mouth disease I now indulge with more patience than I could muster even a year ago. The predatory get short shrift. I try not to get angry with insincerity. Let's say that is still a work in progress. Mxx