Get Real
So I woke up this morning not wanting to deal with non real people. After posting the thread on unspoken thoughts it got me rattled. People ask me how I am but answer for me because they don't want to...
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I agree with @Afraser regarding other people's reactions. I did find some comments hurtful, however I now no longer allow myself to be upset by them. I do find that I now hold people at arm's length until I feel comfortable with the person. I do not always share. When asked I usually reply "Doing well thankyou" and move quickly on. I have got over the "what must people think of me" attitude. I no longer care if I appear rude or off hand. No longer my problem.
@Blossom1961 I do now have to make myself go out. It is too easy to stay inside my gate. I have had to muddle through this "survivorship" as best I can. There are no counselling services or support groups in the remote area where I live. Still there is the internet (When it works!), and I have found the BCNA Forum invaluable.
I learnt early in my BC months that most women, when they learnt of my diagnosis, think "That could have been me". We all have our mammograms at the same Breastscreen van when it comes to town every 2 years. It becomes very close to home in a small town.
One of the nicest things ever said to me was from an acquaintance who when she heard said to me, "I can't imagine how you must be feeling". Her words and a hug were very comforting.
Just remind yourself at all times that you come first and it is not all about other people and their feelings.
Take care and very warm Kimberley wishes to you.
Annie
@Blossom1961 I do now have to make myself go out. It is too easy to stay inside my gate. I have had to muddle through this "survivorship" as best I can. There are no counselling services or support groups in the remote area where I live. Still there is the internet (When it works!), and I have found the BCNA Forum invaluable.
I learnt early in my BC months that most women, when they learnt of my diagnosis, think "That could have been me". We all have our mammograms at the same Breastscreen van when it comes to town every 2 years. It becomes very close to home in a small town.
One of the nicest things ever said to me was from an acquaintance who when she heard said to me, "I can't imagine how you must be feeling". Her words and a hug were very comforting.
Just remind yourself at all times that you come first and it is not all about other people and their feelings.
Take care and very warm Kimberley wishes to you.
Annie