Friends
Evening lovelies, I have been having a hard time lately with being empathetic with my friends and family over, what seems to me, such trivial problems. I understand everything is relative to whats g...
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@Mic80
Ah Friends and family.
Over the last 2 years I have lost some, gained some and retained some.
As you progress through treatment and then into survivorship you will find that this is NORMAL.
it is sad to realise this, however for some non BC women a diagnosis of BC in one of their friends or family brings home the message, "hey it could have been me".
I had a friend from down south who asked to come up and "look after me". I wish I had said no. Two weeks after surgery was too soon to have a house guest. I was too emotional, too depressed, still trying to work out what the hell happened me. That friendship is lost.
Some friends I ditched. They were too hard work. Some were too "advisory" (eat this, don't eat this, I told you sugar was bad), some too judgemental (what did you do to cause it).
As @arpie said my "bullshit meter" is now in overdrive.
The good friends and family will walk beside you with an arm around your shoulders. That is all that is needed.
The others- they will gradually wean themselves out of your company. Let them go, you do not need the stress.
Warm Kimberley wishes to you
Annie
Ah Friends and family.
Over the last 2 years I have lost some, gained some and retained some.
As you progress through treatment and then into survivorship you will find that this is NORMAL.
it is sad to realise this, however for some non BC women a diagnosis of BC in one of their friends or family brings home the message, "hey it could have been me".
I had a friend from down south who asked to come up and "look after me". I wish I had said no. Two weeks after surgery was too soon to have a house guest. I was too emotional, too depressed, still trying to work out what the hell happened me. That friendship is lost.
Some friends I ditched. They were too hard work. Some were too "advisory" (eat this, don't eat this, I told you sugar was bad), some too judgemental (what did you do to cause it).
As @arpie said my "bullshit meter" is now in overdrive.
The good friends and family will walk beside you with an arm around your shoulders. That is all that is needed.
The others- they will gradually wean themselves out of your company. Let them go, you do not need the stress.
Warm Kimberley wishes to you
Annie