Hi @"Kiwi Angel" . As others have said in facing what we have faced, though all different, life comes into perspective and what is important to us now has changed significantly. The triggers for "down" times are usually varied and if thought about as a collective can be overwhelming however can also give us insights to develop a new strategy. I know for me my ways of coping with the every day-ness, the trivial and the hum drum is very different now. My tolerances have changed both for the good and not so good. Going through what we have, really does impact our perspective. I have also found helpful to just sit with the down times, not beat myself up in them but acknowledge this is for both new reasons and old baggage that remains with me. To help I am now journaling each day, working with one word a week that are opposites (like fear and courage; fretful and calm) and exploring them to gather resources to reflect on and remind myself of the who I am becoming now. I hope you can find some space through the support you are seeking, to gather hope and peace around you, while recognising you are you and you are unique. Hugs to you..