Aftermath
Hi Everyone
Sorry but I need to vent. So I finished treatment 12 weeks ago. So we should be relieved. We should be happy it's over. Right? So why are we falling apart? I'm sure hubby has post traum...
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I have felt similar to you throughout my treatment, only I just get angry and yell crazy things (and apologise afterwards).
My theory is that it is a grieving process.
I googled ways to cope and Google doctor said:
1) build healthy self esteem (be respectful to yourself. Take responsibility for your actions). "The six pillars of self esteem" is a useful framework for this.
2) recognise and challenge unhelpful thoughts. (ie CBT techniques.)
3) reduce stress (be active. Control what you can)
4) learn assertiveness skills
5) get social support.
I have found this list hopeful and inspiring. I hope you do too. Focusing on what I can do, rather than all I have lost (health, money, future plans, looks) is what I need to do. I don't have the skills yet but I'm working on it.
wishing you well.