New city, New diagnosis, Looking for support
Hi everyone, this is my first post. I was diagnosed with MBC (to bone) about 4 weeks ago. I was initially diagnosed at 36 with IDC. It was a difficult time as my daughter was only 5yrs and my son was only 5 months. But after a very difficult period during and following treatment (the whole shebang), it took around 5 years for our little family to mend itself and move on from the trauma.
So my partner found work in a new city (Canberra) and we moved, looking forward to a fresh start. After my initial diagnosis I lost many friends who found it too hard to be around me as I was going through treatment, and this has lead me to be somewhat of a loner. But in a new city I felt like it was a new start, new people who didn't know what my health history was... I was getting out and meeting people, doing physical activities, and enjoying life until I began to get aches. Being my first proper winter in 10 years, I put the pains down to the cold weather, but it just didn't get any better. My 12 month review came up in August and that's when my scans came back with mets to my C2, shoulders, pelvis, ribs and femur. Needless to say I'm feeling a little overwhelmed and helpless as I don't have any support here.
I have spoken with the social worker and have lined up time with the psychologist, but there isn't really anything that is on offer for someone with a now, 11 year old and a 6 year old. I don't need a cleaner, or a nanny service so I can rest. I'm working from home as well which keeps me somewhat isolated, and my employer is very understanding. I'm also quite gun shy about trying to make new friends because having to divulge my health history at some stage may drive them away.
So I guess, I would like to know if there are any Mets groups in Canberra for younger women with children. I can't seem to find anything in the Canberra region. I'm really quite desperate as I feel so alone right now.
Thank you :)
So my partner found work in a new city (Canberra) and we moved, looking forward to a fresh start. After my initial diagnosis I lost many friends who found it too hard to be around me as I was going through treatment, and this has lead me to be somewhat of a loner. But in a new city I felt like it was a new start, new people who didn't know what my health history was... I was getting out and meeting people, doing physical activities, and enjoying life until I began to get aches. Being my first proper winter in 10 years, I put the pains down to the cold weather, but it just didn't get any better. My 12 month review came up in August and that's when my scans came back with mets to my C2, shoulders, pelvis, ribs and femur. Needless to say I'm feeling a little overwhelmed and helpless as I don't have any support here.
I have spoken with the social worker and have lined up time with the psychologist, but there isn't really anything that is on offer for someone with a now, 11 year old and a 6 year old. I don't need a cleaner, or a nanny service so I can rest. I'm working from home as well which keeps me somewhat isolated, and my employer is very understanding. I'm also quite gun shy about trying to make new friends because having to divulge my health history at some stage may drive them away.
So I guess, I would like to know if there are any Mets groups in Canberra for younger women with children. I can't seem to find anything in the Canberra region. I'm really quite desperate as I feel so alone right now.
Thank you :)
