Mum recently diagnosed

@Dory65 I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know how i will handle mum not being here any more, i know it could be years but i know its coming eventually. All my life i knew the day would come where my mum would grow old and possibly ill. 

I always thought that i would be more prepared. But you're never prepared for something like this. 

I'm just happy shes well for now. I know there will be ups and downs. I'm glad for the most part shes realistic about her diagnosis. 

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Sorry to hear that @Dory65.  :( 

Hi Formymum19
You are handling this so maturely. I lost my mum to BC in 2001 when she was 72 and I was in my mid 30s. My whole family seemed to be in denial and frozen with fear at the same time. I have a lot of regrets. There was no internet support, no support of any kind, really. Things these days seem remarkably different, I'm glad to say. Good luck. Hugs to you and Mum xxx

Have you checked out The Otis Foundation for a trip? They have some amazing free properties.

I'm glad your mum is doing well. Long may it continue! K xox

Terrific, @Formymum19 that your mum is coping so well with the treatment.  Yes, we have many mets members who have passed the 10 year mark since their mets diagnosis - so just getting on with treatment and living for the moment is the way to go I reckon.  Making good memories with the whole family - so a lovely birthday 'do' will give her a lift.

Take care & big hugs to you and your mum xx

Just thought I'd pop in for a quick update. Mum has been doing really well on ibrance and anastrozol (spelling) 

Shes about to start her 3rd or 4th round of ibrance. 

Shes in good spirits, coping really well, we saw the oncologist today and her cancer markers are up from 83 to 88 but he said that could be due to the cancer reacting to treatment and may go down. (I'm not familiar with what marker it is or what the level is meant to be) 

Obviously there are a ton of questions i want to ask the oncologist for my sake but it's not my journey so i always ask my mum if its ok to ask a certain question before doing so. 

I asked her today if she wanted to know life expectancy, she doesn't as she doesn't want to count down as she put it which is understandable.

Judging on the research Ive done she could have years and years left and its one of those things i guess that it all depends on how well her body responds to treatment. 

Mum will be 70 this month and I'm going to organise something special for her (with the help of siblings) 

I won't lie its really hard to come to terms with the fact that eventually cancer will take my mum so I'm trying to make the most of now. I feel almost guilty for sometimes forgetting she even has cancer, shes doing so well on treatment i tend to forget. Then the reality steps back in, I'm scared for when she does IV chemo (i asked the oncologist today and he said at some stage she will have it) 

My heart goes out to everyone affected by cancer and i can't imagine how hard it is to go through it or watch someone you love go through it.

Wishing all you lovely people the best. 

@JJ70 thankyou so much, I'll pass this information onto my mum. Much appreciated.

@Formymum19, please call Breast Cancer Care WA if you have not been in contact with them already. BCCWA are a community funded charity that help all West Australians diagnosed with BC. They have a metastatic support group, breast care nurses, counsellors, a library, lots of events and can also offer financial support. We are so lucky in WA to have this support.  9324 3703  Best wishes to you and your mum through this tough time.  Tag me in if you need any other PERTH based infor - hospitals, oncs, surgeons.......

And @suburbangirl!

We have some WONDERFUL people in WA .....  @"Annie C"  and @JJ70 spring to mind immediately - tho we have many more!

Feel free to raise any points that you are pondering ..... we have a wonderful database of people going thru every stage of BC ...

take care, hugs to you & Mum  xx