I can't connect with my diagnosis..
Hi there, This is my first post for 5 years. A month ago, I was diagnosed with metastatic bc in my spine and rib, 5 years almost to the day of my initial diagnosis. I am perfectly well, and it was pic...
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Oh dear, that's a real bummer @Ellamary98 ..... a friend has had a similar diagnosis recently with mets in the ribs (don't think it is in her spine tho) ..15 years after original diagnosis/surgery. She's had a brain scan & other scans & it hasn't spread to her organs. Hers is a slow growing one - so has been put on Hormone Inhibitors and may have radiation at some stage. She doesn't want to do chemo anyway. She was having rib pain & it was found thru a biopsy.
That's the silly thing - I think there are quite a few of us that felt fit & healthy when diagnosed, yet family & friends thought we should be in bed looking 'ill and frail'.
You've had an amazing lot of stuff on your plate all at the same time .... you may feel a little 'flat' after everything settles down ..... maybe just take it a little easy when you can.
How I dealt with my diagnosis (it is always going to be a bit of a bomb - but when they see that you are fairly OK with it - they normally act in a similar manner, I've found.) ...... I emailed most of my buddies/family as it was easier than telling them physically (or I would have blubbed big time! LOL) My brother & SIL in Sydney were my most amazing support (I live up the coast) and I lived with them on & off for nearly 2 weeks as I had my initial appointments, surgery & recovery. I didn't tell ALL my immediate family tho - for a variety of reasons.
Like you, even tho a bit sore, I 'felt fine' and 'looked fine' - I'd told everyone NOT TO BE SYMPATHETIC (or I would blub) - to tell me lots of jokes ..... and luckily they obeyed!
Your kids will be naturally 'hesitant/scared' as they would well remember what went on after your initial diagnosis .... so THEY may need a bit of counselling as well as yourself in how best to deal with it all.
All the best with your next meetings with your health providers - I hope you can get onto your meds/procedures fairly quickly & with least drama to yourself. Thinking of you - the diagnosis is always the pits! :(
That's the silly thing - I think there are quite a few of us that felt fit & healthy when diagnosed, yet family & friends thought we should be in bed looking 'ill and frail'.
You've had an amazing lot of stuff on your plate all at the same time .... you may feel a little 'flat' after everything settles down ..... maybe just take it a little easy when you can.
How I dealt with my diagnosis (it is always going to be a bit of a bomb - but when they see that you are fairly OK with it - they normally act in a similar manner, I've found.) ...... I emailed most of my buddies/family as it was easier than telling them physically (or I would have blubbed big time! LOL) My brother & SIL in Sydney were my most amazing support (I live up the coast) and I lived with them on & off for nearly 2 weeks as I had my initial appointments, surgery & recovery. I didn't tell ALL my immediate family tho - for a variety of reasons.
Like you, even tho a bit sore, I 'felt fine' and 'looked fine' - I'd told everyone NOT TO BE SYMPATHETIC (or I would blub) - to tell me lots of jokes ..... and luckily they obeyed!
Your kids will be naturally 'hesitant/scared' as they would well remember what went on after your initial diagnosis .... so THEY may need a bit of counselling as well as yourself in how best to deal with it all.
All the best with your next meetings with your health providers - I hope you can get onto your meds/procedures fairly quickly & with least drama to yourself. Thinking of you - the diagnosis is always the pits! :(