Hi @FYONA1, I am going to jump in here if you dont mind, you ask about negative thoughts and how long to live and yes, that is all perfectly normal and natural, well how long is a piece of string? no one and I mean no one can predict how long we are going to live, in fact my own oncologist has not given me a prognosis and nor do I want one, as you mentioned its very early days and of course all of this is flooding your mind, please trust me, it will and does get better, its always there lurking, but as the days pass and you get into your treatment plan it will get easier, I am 5 years as I said since my diagnosis and I know there are ladies here who are 10 years plus on, as for your hair and if you lose it then you will stop the treatment well that is something that is a very personal decision, but please give the ribociclib time to adjust to your body, my own hair has thinned a little but is not obvious to anyone, my hair is cut and shaped short, before in my younger days I have to say I was very vain about my beautiful long blond hair and was very sad that it had to go, however that passed, it did grow back feeling as you do now is how we have all felt, and yes like @JuMuKu, I see/talk to a pyschologist every month, I have a McGrath Breast Care Nurse and a support group I attend once a month, and although most of the ladies there are early breast cancer survivors they have welcomed me and made me feel very special, as I mentioned before you are on the best treatment, I dont even qualify, but thats life, it is what it is, be kind to your self, be gentle, have a good soul cleansing cry, have a bath put on some candles, have a massage, do what ever it takes to put you in a good place physically and mentally,
I understand your pain and feelings of negativity, but please if you only take one thing from this message it is that you are not going to die today, tomorrow next month or even next year, we have the best in breast cancer treatment in the world,please take on board all the support offered to you, discuss your feelings with your gp, you dont mention if you have a husband or partner, how are they coping, men like to fix things and this is one thing that they cannot fix, people do not know how to respond to someone who has been given the diagnosis we have, can you arrange for a short holiday, the otis foundation have some lovely places all over australia where you can stay for up to 4 or 5 nights you do not have to take anything, everything is provided free of charge,perhaps you need to take some time out to try and put all of this in perspective, either alone or with someone special, please my dear, just one day at a time, have you seen the videos that several women made last year about dealing with their metastatic diagnosis, they range in ages from late 30s to early 60s
in fact you might see me there!!!,so, thats it for now, just know that we are here for you, to encourage you, to cry with you and believe it or not laugh with you -
