Angry or not??

Words are so powerful and so easily misinterpreted. I am sending hugs Share xo. 

Oh ladies, I remember a saying my Mum & Nan used to say "The squeakiest wheel makes the most sound".

There are some people who are what I refer to as "black catters". If you have a black cat, they too have a black cat, only their cat is blacker !

@Cate64, the fact that you are Xena warrior princess and so determined and strong & your veneer shown to the outside world is one of invincibility, some members of your family and friends think you are doing "OK".

I won't even start with my husband's family. Except for 1 brother who lives 10 minutes away, the rest live 3 1/2 hours drive away. HIs parents (early 70's) have some health issues rarely come to Sydney except for specialists appointments. We get a visit when this occurs. Since my secondary bc diagnosis 18 months ago they have been to visit once (again for a specialist appt). Their youngest son lives near them. He has always been needy and even more so since his marriage broke down 7 years ago (3 young children).

He is getting married to a woman who was given a visa with conditions to apply for their marriage licence, is 20 years younger than him &  they have known each other for less than 8 months. We have not met her. The wedding is in 3 weeks - my husband has made it perfectly clear I will not be going (too much at the moment with my tm's increasing and lympodema) and that our sons who are in their mid-late teens will be remaining at home with me to keep an eye on me.

They won't take no for an answer. My brother-in-law said "Wedding's are happy occasions, I just want my family there. Can't people just forgot their problems !!! :#

It is sometimes a daily struggle to dismiss the negativity and focus our very important energy on keeping as well as possible and think good positive re-affirming thoughts. 

This is a little saying that my sister shared with me after my recent diagnosis -

"Watch your words, they become actions; watch your actions, they become habits; watch your habits, they become character, watch your character, for it becomes your destiny".  <3

Thanks ladies. I can really relate to these posts! I'm frustrated and annoyed by so, so many things...

There's something to be said for giving attention where it is most needed (not necessarily most wanted). My lovely kind parents were at pains to treat their two children equally. But my sibling needed a great deal more attention than I did, and I think his later problems in life were largely to do with an insecurity which was incomprehensible to me but very real to him. I think it can be hard to fathom either way. But really hard for parents too. We all just do the best we can. 

OMgosh I am reading this almost in tears, I was trying to expalin this to the psychologist the other day, she didn't really get it. was thinking it was just me losing it.. 

There just seems to be siblings who are high maintenance and then there's us who put on a brave face but need a cuddle now and then. I pray karma occurs when one needs to step up and support the parent when they need it later on. Don't come running to me mate. I thank God for my husband and try to be in a good temper around him as I know acting up affects him too. I do have a secret, if things get really beyond me I put on the dvd movie Punisher and imagine he is playing out my revenge too. Seems to work lol.

Cate nothing fair about that at all...it's like some joke that we never get. Yet it seems to be the irony of life how it works, makes zero sense and would it hurt you? You bet!!! But this is what I see in you, an incredibly intelligent, driven, loving, supportive, independent and courageous woman who doesn't apologise for who you are. Determined beyond belief and then there's your sister...ummm just sad. So people see this strong capable person in you and think they don't need anyone...STUPID, isn't it? And her like poor helpless animal. I'm sorry Cate because you have earned that love respect and support and yet you don't get it. I love your spirit! Xo Melinda 

I reckon we should all just use Mrs Brown's "That's Nice!!!!" - says it all  :D - use it with a couple of my colleagues at work who have watched the show - we all have a giggle. (She uses it in place of F#%* O*#!!)

I briefly felt angry. I felt stress caused mine ...and I just got out of a job that broke me and had moved on and had my life back and wham. ..cancer. But I was angry with myself for not looking after me sooner. I was able to quickly move to acceptance as I had already worked through all the crap in my head from my old job so I just packed it back up with that. I chose to just go with the emotions, the sadness, being scared and depressed....so that I could fully heal and return to my life looking forward as I'd done with it. So far so good. Still fears sneeking in my head occasionally but mostly manage to box that up too. 

I actually became so exhausted from the whole process I never even showed anger...I may have felt it but just accepted that most of the crap happening wasn't in my control. Emotiobally blunted. I have regaibed my full range now...yes anger and joy has returned. Kath x

@Marina1 I doubt we will ever know why we get it ..... 

Hugs for dealing with chemo and such a insensitive twit of a woman.... 
We get it but those that have already been hit with BC, we get the feelings emotions and the anger at times.... 

Hugs and energy to keep on going thru the chemo it will get better 
Alice xox