Cate nothing fair about that at all...it's like some joke that we never get. Yet it seems to be the irony of life how it works, makes zero sense and would it hurt you? You bet!!! But this is what I see in you, an incredibly intelligent, driven, loving, supportive, independent and courageous woman who doesn't apologise for who you are. Determined beyond belief and then there's your sister...ummm just sad. So people see this strong capable person in you and think they don't need anyone...STUPID, isn't it? And her like poor helpless animal. I'm sorry Cate because you have earned that love respect and support and yet you don't get it. I love your spirit! Xo Melinda