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This website has been my saviour, and all the wonderful people who give great support and even greater advice.  We sympathise, and understand, we are all going through it together.  I was given relief by chatting to people on this website.  Answers from the Breast Care Nurse, who introduced herself after I had surgery, and rely on 3 doctors for advice.  I always take their advice and trust in their knowledge.  The day youre told "You have Breast Cancer"  is one non of us will ever forget.  I stood outside my car and burst into tears and said to my husband (both dressed in our work clothes) - "Now what are we going to do, we are supposed to go to work?"  Here I am 3 months later, 2 operations, and half way through Chemo in a blink of an eye.  The nurse said to me after my operation "Your life will now revolve around appointments, and you will have plenty of support"  So my dear, we wish you well, and remember THERE IS ONLY ONE YOU.  Every one is different, and try to keep saying to yourself "You will be ok, you will sail through!"  good luck XX Bel

I'm sorry to hear about your breast cancer diagnosis but welcome to this network. It's a big shock at first and you are on a steep learning curve.Try not to think too far ahead cos it will do your head in. Get through your surgery first -that's the first biggy.Have you got button down the front pjs and a loose shirt to take to hospital?Keep extra busy until surgery day and ask the chemist for an over the counter sleeper if you can't sleep.I was an anxious,blubbering mess when I got the bad news.I've been through this crap journey twice(2003 and 2010) and I'm fine now.The "my journey" kit from BCNA is great as Michelle mentioned.You will also get lots of information and support on this network so keep blogging.Family and friends are great support but your pink sisters truly know what you are going through. Sending hugs,Tonya xx

I'm sorry to hear about your breast cancer diagnosis but welcome to this network. It's a big shock at first and you are on a steep learning curve.Try not to think too far ahead cos it will do your head in. Get through your surgery first -that's the first biggy.Have you got button down the front pjs and a loose shirt to take to hospital?Keep extra busy until surgery day and ask the chemist for an over the counter sleeper if you can't sleep.I was an anxious,blubbering mess when I got the bad news.I've been through this crap journey twice(2003 and 2010) and I'm fine now.The "my journey" kit from BCNA is great as Michelle mentioned.You will also get lots of information and support on this network so keep blogging.Family and friends are great support but your pink sisters truly know what you are going through. Sending hugs,Tonya xx

The shock is awful, and we have all been there and understand. It's good that things are moving quickly for you - the roller coaster has started and it's easiest to just take one day at a time. You are going to be very busy for the next few months.

Have you asked for a "My Journey" kit from this website? It is invaluable for information, comfort, appointments, schedules, and just knowing you are not alone and there is a lot of support from BCNA. Just go to the New Diagnosis heading at the top of the page, and you will see the box to order your kit. It is such a help.

Everything happens quite fast after diagnosis, so go with the flow and try not to stress too much. The Cancer Council has meditation cd's which are good for teaching relaxation techniques when you start to feel a bit panicky - sometimes at night.

We are all here for you. Just come and post - someone is always there. It is a wonderful network and source of support. Stay in touch - sending you a big hug,

Michelle xx