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jo1234
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14 years ago

I want this thing out of me now!

Hi everyone,

I am new to this but after reading a lot of the posts on here i think i am finally in the right place.

Just finished writing my story on the profile page.  Oh what a story,(joking) I need to go and read up on everyone else,  so i can begin to  understand and believe that im not alone as i really feel at the moment.

A quick run down of myself. Diagnosed on 15th July  with grade 2  invasive ductal carcinoma. Surgeons appointment 11th August. Some suspicious nodes so they are to check them and take action as required.

 My mental state has plummeted big time. For days i have just found myself wandering around dazed , bursting into tears  waiting for this thing to be removed out of my body, and the waiting is so painfully long. 

I keep fighting with my mind when i think i have found more lumps in my body and the thought of being consumed with Cancer. When do these feelings go away.

I cant help but think Why me? what have i done to deserve this.? I just want to be happy in my life,  I don't wont to die like this.

I know all this sounds very selfish and i know  i am not the only one going through this and you ladies have probably already gone through everything i am feeling now.

The internet has became my all night friend of knowledge as sleep is out of the question.

 I am struggling to wait  until 11th August to see the surgeon,       ( Professor Christobel Saunders( WA top breast surgeon)

 I am really scared and mixed up emotionally and could really do with talking with others that have this dreaded disease.

Thanks everyone for the dribble session, it does help

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  • Thank you Deb for your reply.

    You really are amazing, you are just out of hospital after  a mastectomy  and a hysterectomy and your still coming to terms with everything yourself but yet you offer this support to myself and others. There really are some beautiful people in this world. Thank you Debbie, I hope i can  get to be in a better state of mind like yourself and not let this Cancer rule my life like it is at the moment.

    I did ordered the journal kit on the day i found out.  (15th July) but it hasn't arrived yet.

    Appreciate the the tip on the PJ's . I would not have even thought of that.  I have suffered from major  depression from pain for about ten years now and are on pretty high medication. I don't know how i will go if i have to go off my meds for treatment ? Ideally  I would love to come of them but i guess this is not really the right  time.

    I looked up to see about Jane McGrath breast  nurses over here in Perth and in my area. There is one so i will consider contacting her. I just feel i am being a little selfish if i approached anyone for help before i have even started treatment.  I maybe taking the care nurse away from someone who needs her more . I don't know.

    Debbie i hope you are feeling ok and i hope everything goes well for you from now on. I really do appreciate the chat. I do think your a brave lady, all the best.

    cheers Jo xx

  • Believe it or not you are having completely normal reactions.We have all felt what you are feeling now.You are still in the shock/disbelief stage.You have to keep reminding yourself in the morning that it's not a bad dream but real.The waiting around is what does your head in.The first time I had breast cancer(2003)I had visions of the cancer racing through my body while I waited for surgery.I was sick to the pit of my stomach and I just wanted it out of me quickly. I feel for you having to wait till 11th august and I would suggest you ring your surgeon and put pressure on to see him sooner.Maybe you'll get in on a cancellation.In the meantime keep yourself REALLY busy -a glass of red at night helps.Try not to think the worst because you are more than likely going to be ok.I got cancer back in the same spot,same breast 7 years later.So last year I had a mastectomy and chemo.Back in 2003 I had a lumpectomy,full node clearance and radiation.So I've become an "expert" on all the treatments.I'm fine now and I wear a prosthesis.Once you have a plan and a surgery date you will go into "battle"mode and you will feel abit better than you are feeling now.Jump on here anytime -always nice ladies to talk to.We all support each other and collectively,we make up one very intelligent brain.

                                           Tonya xx

  • Believe it or not you are having completely normal reactions.We have all felt what you are feeling now.You are still in the shock/disbelief stage.You have to keep reminding yourself in the morning that it's not a bad dream but real.The waiting around is what does your head in.The first time I had breast cancer(2003)I had visions of the cancer racing through my body while I waited for surgery.I was sick to the pit of my stomach and I just wanted it out of me quickly. I feel for you having to wait till 11th august and I would suggest you ring your surgeon and put pressure on to see him sooner.Maybe you'll get in on a cancellation.In the meantime keep yourself REALLY busy -a glass of red at night helps.Try not to think the worst because you are more than likely going to be ok.I got cancer back in the same spot,same breast 7 years later.So last year I had a mastectomy and chemo.Back in 2003 I had a lumpectomy,full node clearance and radiation.So I've become an "expert" on all the treatments.I'm fine now and I wear a prosthesis.Once you have a plan and a surgery date you will go into "battle"mode and you will feel abit better than you are feeling now.Jump on here anytime -always nice ladies to talk to.We all support each other and collectively,we make up one very intelligent brain.

                                           Tonya xx

  • Hey there, you have done nothing to get this BC, but remember you can do a lot to change the situation you are living right now...check at my profile and you will see...YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE EVERYTHING BEFORE THE SURGERY...BE POSITIVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF AS YOU ARE...AND IT HELP ME TO REPIT

    I LOVINGLY FORGIVE AND RELEASE ALL THE PAST, I CHOSE TO FILL MY LIFE WITH JOY, I LOVE AND APROBE OF MYSELF...

     

    The first weeks are the most difficult, then everything start to be easier...

    Be calm and remain positve,

    Leonor

  • Hey there, you have done nothing to get this BC, but remember you can do a lot to change the situation you are living right now...check at my profile and you will see...YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE EVERYTHING BEFORE THE SURGERY...BE POSITIVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF AS YOU ARE...AND IT HELP ME TO REPIT

    I LOVINGLY FORGIVE AND RELEASE ALL THE PAST, I CHOSE TO FILL MY LIFE WITH JOY, I LOVE AND APROBE OF MYSELF...

     

    The first weeks are the most difficult, then everything start to be easier...

    Be calm and remain positve,

    Leonor

  • Hi Jo, you are so normal we all have these feelings of doubt and why me. the first initial diagnosis is just a blur with medical jargon. the only word that seems to stay in your head is i have cancer.

     you will have good days and bad days but as time goes on it seems to get easier somehow.      tho there are still ups and downs.Ive had surgery chemo and just finished radiation. each stage was scarey but as i look back now i made it, the best way i could.

     I was scared of this site at first but its a fantastic link to others going through exactly the same fears and doubts and we can all be a power of strenght for each other.

    I know you must be scared waiting for results and to see the surgeon and im sorry to say there is a lot of waiting.But cry all you need to yell, scream, whinge,sook , but remember to laugh and love.

     there are so many of us out there that are going through what you are you are not alone. take care sending lots of good vibes your way annie xx

  • Hi Jo, you are so normal we all have these feelings of doubt and why me. the first initial diagnosis is just a blur with medical jargon. the only word that seems to stay in your head is i have cancer.

     you will have good days and bad days but as time goes on it seems to get easier somehow.      tho there are still ups and downs.Ive had surgery chemo and just finished radiation. each stage was scarey but as i look back now i made it, the best way i could.

     I was scared of this site at first but its a fantastic link to others going through exactly the same fears and doubts and we can all be a power of strenght for each other.

    I know you must be scared waiting for results and to see the surgeon and im sorry to say there is a lot of waiting.But cry all you need to yell, scream, whinge,sook , but remember to laugh and love.

     there are so many of us out there that are going through what you are you are not alone. take care sending lots of good vibes your way annie xx