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Tink's avatar
Tink
Member
11 years ago

Hit a wall

Hi all

I'm halfway through my chemo, things are going well medically but I"ve run smack bang into a wall and am finding that I'm not coping as well as I want to.  These last couple of days I've been crying non stop, I've got cording which is really uncomfortable and am just generally miserable!!  I'm even yelling at my beloved little dogs which is most unlike me!!

I am going to the Kim Walters Choices Program tomorrow to get assistance with the cording issue but would like to know your tips on getting yourself over the bad times.  I live alone and although I have support if I need it, I have a hard time asking for it.  I hate feeling like this and don't know how to get myself out of these doldrums

Any advice is more than welcome!

Tink xx

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  • Tink's avatar
    Tink
    Member
    11 years ago
    Thank you all for responses. Mita I am in Brissie. You have all given great advice which I will follow up on. Things aren't helped by continuous hot flushes in this heat plus I can't swim with a picc line in. I did escape to my sister's house which has air con thank God. Thanks again Tink xx
  • Mita's avatar
    Mita
    Member
    11 years ago

    Hi, Tink.  Am I right if you're going to the Kim Walters Choices Program...at the Wesley... you must be in Brisbane?  If so, there's a fantastic Cancer Council Helpline (13 11 20) that you can call any time.   As well as counselling offered on the phone, they provide deeper help with their counsellors at their headquarters on Gregory Terrace.

    They will also take your details & match you up with a volunteer who's been thro' a similar experienced to you... and who will phone you to talk thro' how you're going.  I did this when I got my early diagnosis & the person they paired me with was brilliantly helpful.   I'll always be grateful to that person... who was in Melbourne.  As it's done by phone, the match can be interstate.... the emphasis is on having something in common & the volunteer has been thro' it. 

    By coincidence, I also have two much loved little dogs... & I know I worried tremendously about the impact of my treatment and its consequences on them.   Please, if you want to talk more about them... I'm happy to do so. 

  • Hazel_M's avatar
    Hazel_M
    Member
    11 years ago

    I am 7 month post treatment and I remember the doldrums like they were yesterday. Chemo does have a cumulative effect so the fatigue gets worse with each one. I suffer from depression and anxiety which I had before BC,I developed an eating problem during chemo and saw a psychologist and she ended up helping me through till the end of treatment. Like Donna said they are someone to vent to and they understand. I went to a public hospital and the service was offered to me free. Chemo is a hard gig, it's hard physically and mentally.I didn't have the cording which is making your situation worse so I hope that eases for you soon. Things do get better, you may not see this now however, sending you cyber hugs, take care, 

    Hazel xx

  • rowdy's avatar
    rowdy
    Member
    11 years ago

    Hi we all hit that wall at sometime., time to be kind to yourself. As women we all think we can cope with anything. It is not weak to admit you are struggling, I struggle everyday to accept this trip. Iam sitting here today stressing about having my heart scan later today, it dosen't seem to stop ,the appointments and the intrusion this bc is having on my life. Hang in there and take it 1 day at a time its the only way I cope. This site helps to vent, as we  all know how you feel as we have all been there at some time. Give your dogs a cuddle and have a cuppa, sending you hugsxxx

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    mgndam1603
    Member
    11 years ago

    I saw a psychologist throughout my treatment and it was the best thing I did for myself. I could talk about anything, I could vent and she understood. She also worked with me to understand my feelings. It is easy to give into all those feelings but I wanted to get passed them.

    Living alone must be difficult through this time, perhaps set-up regular visits with family or yor close friends, being other people forces us to be more upbeat.

    Take care and sending you hugs.

    Donna