What to do?!!

Hi I'm sorry to hear how much your dealing with. I too have a very full plate and you just take each day at a time. Some will be good, some tiring, some emotional, some painful/sick and some all of the above. Being pregnant is big congratulations and whatever you need to do will be the right decision at that time. Don't second guess yourself to much. I too had a mascetomy without a choice and it's fine also. I'm happy that was right for me. I'm a single mum who lost my baby just before I was diagnosed and separated for my abusive husband also just before I was diagnosed. This was 10 mths ago and left me to care for our 2 and 3 year old. Chemo was tough physically and take any help cooking cleaning any people offer. Surgery tough also but not for as long, I am happy with surgery and radiotherapy as it didn't effect my mind as much. Which made finding ways around things with the kids better. Movies all cuddled on couch blankets and pop corn often. The kids just needed me to be with them even if it was not lots of fun etc. good luck and it will get better. I finish radiotherapy yesterday, some burns but other wise I feel great as only need an injection once a month to stop hormones and herceptin each 3 weeks I/v for a few hours at hospital. That's the quietest we have been for the 10months. Ps I was told at the start right off a year. Luv B

Hi I'm sorry to hear how much your dealing with. I too have a very full plate and you just take each day at a time. Some will be good, some tiring, some emotional, some painful/sick and some all of the above. Being pregnant is big congratulations and whatever you need to do will be the right decision at that time. Don't second guess yourself to much. I too had a mascetomy without a choice and it's fine also. I'm happy that was right for me. I'm a single mum who lost my baby just before I was diagnosed and separated for my abusive husband also just before I was diagnosed. This was 10 mths ago and left me to care for our 2 and 3 year old. Chemo was tough physically and take any help cooking cleaning any people offer. Surgery tough also but not for as long, I am happy with surgery and radiotherapy as it didn't effect my mind as much. Which made finding ways around things with the kids better. Movies all cuddled on couch blankets and pop corn often. The kids just needed me to be with them even if it was not lots of fun etc. good luck and it will get better. I finish radiotherapy yesterday, some burns but other wise I feel great as only need an injection once a month to stop hormones and herceptin each 3 weeks I/v for a few hours at hospital. That's the quietest we have been for the 10months. Ps I was told at the start right off a year. Luv B

Thanks Liz, am I young enough??!!  hahahaha will be joining soon :-)

Cass xxx

Thanks Liz, am I young enough??!!  hahahaha will be joining soon :-)

Cass xxx

Hi Rach Congratulations, I will message you when I have my first one too!!

Thanks so much for the info.  I have just recently been in touch with the nurse & OMG, she is amazing.  We are meeting up tomorrow to work out a "plan".  There is so much going on... my oldest daughter Samantha (27) has a genetic disease & has cancer AGAIN (3rd time for her) & I found out this on the same day as me.  I also have Isabella (4) she is adorable but full on & some days it just feels like a bit too much and now the unexpected pregnancy, (I'm 46!).  I do have some great friends who say I'm really strong etc, but that's on the outside lol!

Keep up the good work :-)

Hello there I'm 38 & 12 months on Saturday is my first "cancerversary" you will have a lot of thoughts going through your head & anxiety - my advice would be to take one day at a time, have you spoken to a breast care nurse? They are truly wonderful & a great resource, whatever your treatment plan please know that you can do this & you are stronger than you ever imagined xxx Take care Rach xo

Hello there I'm 38 & 12 months on Saturday is my first "cancerversary" you will have a lot of thoughts going through your head & anxiety - my advice would be to take one day at a time, have you spoken to a breast care nurse? They are truly wonderful & a great resource, whatever your treatment plan please know that you can do this & you are stronger than you ever imagined xxx Take care Rach xo