Stress ten fold

Hi Chipo.  Welcome to this site.  I was diagnosed 7 weeks ago and had a similar scenario with the tumour being much bigger than originally anticipated, no clear margins and node involvement.  I also have to have chemo and probably rads.  However, I didn't have the added heartache of pregnancy.  I don't know what all the factors are behind your decision to terminate and whether you would have chosen a termination anyway.  The decision may effectively be out of your hands but I do hope that you are not rushing in to it too quickly and that it is something you have discussed with your doctor and whoever else is in your support network (I will stress that I am not anti-abortion).  If you are going ahead with it, please make sure that you can access counselling services.  It doesn't matter what the reason and how certain you are, a termination is not an easy decision - with breast cancer on top of that and 3 young children you should make sure you know where to find help.  Again, I want to stress that I am not being judgemental at all - you have to make the best decision for you and your 3 kids.  Please keep us updated as to how you are going.